How do you break the cycle?


Question:
I have been abused in one way or another my whole life, was sexually abused as a child from 5-11, gang raped as a teen, and physical abuse from a past bf. I try and fidn good people to be with,but it never works out. Anyone else feel this way?

Answers:
You probably gravitate to the same people when you are looking for new people to hang out with, next time you start looking for friends or a relationship just look to people who you never really would ahve thought your self being with, atleast it is better than abuse.

Other Answers:
You look for the wrong kind of people in the wrong places.

you really need to talk to a dr. and a cousnler to help for these problems and you can do it you cant give up on your self. A lot of abused feel this way!! You really could benefit from some professional counsellings.. from someone who specializes in abuse issues. This is a problem of brain chemistry and some deep seated conditioned responses. It is NOT a simple thing that you can simply decide to change. It can be changed, but it takes a lot of work and effective techniques. They can be found!


I would seek professional advice. Even if you think you can't afford it, there are many self help groups that don't cost any money to join. I have also been abused and if you think you're alone--you most certainly are not. I find strength in knowing that people CAN overcome the past. Some of my favorite artists (like Tori Amos and Fiona Apple) have expressed their experience through music.

Find a creative outlet (music, poetry, art, dance, etc.) and find a place where you can seek therapy, either with one therapist or a self help group of many who have experienced the same thing. Also, try going to the RAINN web site and check out the resources there.




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