I'm 17 and my boyfriend wants to do it??Should I?
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I was in the same exact boat as you, except I chose to have sex. I am 17, and I felt the same exact way as you do about my boyfriend.
I honestly regret doing it. I thought that he wanted to have sex with me, and if I did he would be happier. I was wrong. A few weeks later we had a conversation about it, and I found out that he really didn't care about the sexual part of our relationship. Sure, it is a plus, but it also has its downsides.
Its miserable sitting around waiting for your period when its 2 days late, praying that you aren't pregnant, and I also felt so guilty after we had done it.
We aren't having sex anymore, and I've found that we are actually closer now that we have sat down and talked about everything.
So my advice to you is don't do anything until you and your boyfriend sit down and have an honest talk. It may be painful or hard to talk about, but trust me it WILL be worth it. And if after you have that long talk you still want to have sex with him, go for it. Just make sure you have protection.. but don't let him make you feel forced into anything. Just remember.. it is your body!
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Only do it if you are completely sure your ready.
stick with just doing oral sex for each other until your ready to get married.. oral sex is wonderful for both. or you can get some toys he can use on you.. or get ready for a baby. say no if your not ok with it. Dont do it just to make him happy. If he loves you he wont leave you he will wait for you to be ready
deffinitley not. i think the right time is after your married.
if you feel you need advise on whether or not to do it, DONT. if you are ready you will know right off. if he loves you, he will not leave you over this. it does not matter how old you are. when you are ready, you will know. NEVER sleep with a guy as a way to keep him. he will end up just wanting that and not wanting you (as a person). in fact, i suggest you wait until you meet the right guy. one that you dont have to worry about him leaving you if you dont have sex with him.
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experience.
Your question boils down to this answer for me: If you're afraid that he'll leave you if you don't have sex with him, then he's shown you that there is no way that he is even remotely worthy of giving that level of yourself to him. No worthwhile guy who loves you would think of leaving you because you respect your body. A worthwhile guy would think even more of you because of it.
Have more self-respect than that - you deserve better, and you can get better.
At this time in your life, concentrate on your career goals and your "purpose" in life, and the relationships will fall into place more securely.
based on much experience, i must agree that *you know u.w* has the right approach. of course he wants to, its totally natural at his age and pretty much beyond voluntary control. YOU must decide what's best for you, and not based on what he wants. if he truly does care, and there are some boys his age who are actually disciplined, reflective, not overly selfish, and sensitive, then he will wait. if he leaves because of your requirement to wait, i assure you, you will, nevertheless, have made the correct decision and will survive the loss. I'm a man and what I've seen is that girls who have sex too soon end up regreting it. For women it is a very important moment and want to share it on a special occasion with someone special. For men it's nothing "special", it's just pure sex, we are very very hot, especially as teenagers, so don't think he'll remember as a sweet moment as you'll probably will. I know you love your boyfriend, but I can feel that you will do it only to please him and you'll regret it.
I would advice to wait, if he trully loves you he will understand. However I must say that you are still very young, wait, you won't regret it. I'm not saying necessarily that you must be sure that the man you're gonna have sex with is the man you're gonna marry.
Just wait, when the moment comes to give yourself to a man, YOU WILL KNOW IT! And then you will be satisfied with your decision, because it was YOUR decision!
Good luck!
P.S.: If you want to avoid a baby ask him to use protection and use it yourself as well. Never have unprotected sex!
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