what do i tell my girlfreind if she thinks shes fat but clearly, she isnt.?
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Girls and women are bombarded with images from every form of visual media of the "perfect" woman. It's a tremendous amount of pressure to bear when men are so vocal about how important looks are, and how hot the models and porn stars are, etc. Many women feel that they don't measure up to that "airbrushed" perfection. And we don't because it's not real. That why so many are opting for breast augmentation, liposuction, tummy tuck, blah blah blah plastic surgery, ad nauseum.
Anyway, to answer your question, there are several practical things you can do to encourage your girlfriend (and bless you for wanting to do that!):
1) Reassure her: In the moments when she's NOT lamenting about her body and looks, tell her she's beautiful. Women appreciate an unsolicited compliment more than the ones they fish for.
2) Answer softly: When she asks you a question, never lie to her, but do tell her what she really wants to hear. See #1. (Example: do these pants make my butt look big? Your answer: No! You look amazing in anything you wear!)
3) Distract her: If she's always got her nose in a Cosmo or Vogue magazine, ask her opinion on whatever it is that you're reading. If you show her you're interested in more than just her body, she'll start to get the message that she's valued beyond looks and she'll eventually start to calm down.
4) Praise her: When she least expects it, tell her something you really appreciate about her. (Aside from anything physical. that's covered in #1.)
5) Share life: Get her outside and do things together that you both enjoy and that reinforce the bond between you. Make a pact to try something different.something she likes, or something you like. Switch it up.
6) Comparisons: NEVER compare her to another woman, whether it's someone you know or not. And keep the girl-watching to a minimum. I know guys are visual creatures; but do be discreet about it. Women have very sensitive RADAR, when it comes to that sort of thing. ; )
The whole point of these tips is to build rapport, trust, communication and love between the two of you. Be genuine, always look her in the eyes, and never lie.even if you think you'll get in trouble for whatever offense you may have committed. You probably will get in trouble, but better to deal with it now than later, where you'll get in trouble twice: once for the offense, and then for lying about it. lol
Good luck to you! Cheers!
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smile be happy and tell her you love her always, and how lucky she is to have you, you rotten .
she has self esteem issues. she is affected by mass media like most people. be supportive and tell her how you feel, and remain positive about her to her. you could also ask her if she might need a little therapy to get over her body issues if not for you but her own health. if u really think she is fat.. tell her indirectly that exercise to keep ur self fit
Tell her how you view her. She may feel insecure about your motives and just wants to know if you would still love her enough and be attracted to her if she were to gain some weight. This is often a test of longer-term intentions of a relationship. Also, she may have some body image distortion, which would require her to seek some professional treatment/ counseling.
compliment something on her body you like and why.
most girls are like that - just be nice and keep on telling her she is not fat. Girls are like that because society tells them that they have to weight under 120 pounds to be anything. Look at any magazine cover and you are going to see an ultra-slim model in a bikini.
if shes not fat than thats her problem..i mean she shouldn't be fishing for complements from you because that is obviously what she is doing..she knows she is not fat im sorry but i HATE girls like that if i were u i would yell at her and say shut up i don't have time for your nonsense ;-)
Always let her know that she's beautiful.
If you like, aren't complementing her, she may feel like you think she is ugly, and fat.
Sometime very soon, like the next time you see her, say something like, "Wow, you are so beautiful" or something. If she says something like, "No I'm fat!" in return, say, "How could you think that? You have an amazing body!"
It might make her feel better. I hope I helped.
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