why i cant get an orgasm when i have sex?
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You may be feeling inhibited.
Outside of marriage, I used to feel really guilty and never enjoyed it.plus that boy was a serious playa and I didn't know for sure, but something in my spirit just wasn't right,.God just wouldn't let me enjoy it that much.and then I finally found out that he was playing around with more than one other person
I decided to be celibate for 10 years after I broke up with the playa
Now, I'm married to a man that loved me enough to wait until marriage to have sex with me. I don't have the Big O every time, but I have it frequently.
Besides guilt, other things that can stop you from being able to fully enjoy:
--pain or discomfort; maybe ask your mate to just cuddle
--your mate doesn't know how to have proper rhythm and it can make you have to rebuild momentum each time he changes rhythm
--dehydration (use a lubricant, e.g. KY has some good products)
--illness
--the position you're in isn't working, change it up a bit
--not enough foreplay and "mind/soul loving" prior to the actual act
--mad or disappointed at your mate; talk it through beforehand to get closure on the issue
--exhaustion.so sleepy you can't stay awake during the act; take a short nap first and your libido will "reset" itself.wake your mate up if you find yourself ready in the middle of the night
--anxiety or just a bit too wired.sometimes the more tired I am, the more relaxed I am and the less my mind wanders and then I can focus on my time with my spouse and be uninhibited and really enjoy it more
I could go on and on, but I'll stop here.
See the resources I've listed below
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Do you really like the guy you're doing it with? If so, you should consult the gynecologist. If not, you should find a guy whom you really like.
Maybe it's your guys fault. Can you orgasm when you masturbate? if you can ,then you may need to show your partner what feels good to you. if you can't remember some medications make it difficult, emotional turmoil or sexual/mental abuse effect the ability to orgasm. Also you may need to change your sexual position so that your "sweet spot" is properly paid attention too.
Because your partner does not know what they are doing!
Maybe you dont have connection with your partner.
Because honey you ain't had the right man lay the pipe to you!!
With my 8" pecker I bet you would squall like a wildcat with a sore a$$hole if I thumped that muffin fer ya!! To make a girl orgasm, finger the G spot furiously (or use a G spot toy), masturbate the clit fast at the same time (like rub a powerful vibrator body massager on your clit at the same time). Maybe have an object in her a-nus (a turn on by women). You have to be horn*y in order for the orgasm to work, so you may want to incorporate goat weed or any good aphrodisiac (a sexual libido enhancer, NOT Viagra or "size pills") . The G-spot is on the top inside of the vagina. Curve your fingers up when fing*ring. For a libido enhancer, try http://www.directvideoanddvd.com/listcategory_toys.asp. Maybe pop in a porno. Girls love when you rub the inside of her thigh(s) while you do this. [for the guys to do]
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