how can I ease the pain of sex?

Question:

My bf has a very big penis. it's about 8 1/2-9 inches erect and very thick. we've been having sex for almost two years and I still get sore after having sex with him - sometimes it's a little and sometimes its a lot if we hadn't done it in a while. We use lube to make it easier so it doesn't hurt as much, but any other ideas to stop the soreness afterwards? Usually we can only do it once b/c by the time we are done it's too sore down there. I love the sex, just hate the next day when I can sometimes barely walk, lol.

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Ok, here is some advice, I hope it helps because it helps me. My hubby is about 8-8 1/2 inches and thick as well. What we do is we use lubricant before sex and we go slow at first. After sex, I go to the bathroom and pee then I take a rag and get it wet with cold water and hold down there to ease the swelling and pain. After 10 minutes of that I take a nice warm bath, no bubbles or anything just a regular bath. After that I do that rag treatment again and by the next day I feel pretty good. If you are still hurting after a day or two you really should go see your OB/GYN to make sure there isnt anything going on to cause concern.

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Sounds like you are already doing the basics. (Three cheers for K-Y jelly.) More foreplay might help.

Don't complain....That will take all the pain away for him.

A Lot of women have the same problem, and size isn't always the case..lots and lots of lube..make sure your completely in the mood..take a warm bath afterwards..thats about as much as i can tell you, there are changes it could be caused by something else, like a cyst..

try it in your ***. it will hurt at first but the anus can become very large if given time to relax. then he can pound away at you for hours.

I have had this conversation with two of my friends they suggest woman on top so you control how hard and how much. They also said he needs to go lighter on the thrust. I would talk to your GYN there may be more of a problem. Bruising is never good.

I would suggest, having him make you *** first - this released more natural lubrication and also expands your vaginal canal which will allow more of his penis inside of you.

I would also try different positions (you on top) different angles may help, try using a pillow underneath you.

Remember the average vaginal canal is only 6-7 inches long, so even on a good day he will not be able to fully be inside of you comfortably (without hitting your cervix - ouch!)

good luck!

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