I am 25. I have been w/ my bf for almost 3 years and I love him to death. However, I have practically no sex?
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Low libido (low sexual desire), is a very common problem for many women after childbirth or for those on birth control. It can also happen to young women or women of all ages. The cause is usually a hormonal imbalance.
There are many type of herbal supplements that can help you regain your libido. Horny Goat weed and Ginseng are good products, and there are also combination herbal supplments that work even better, I have heard that Boom is a real good one. The trick with kerbal supplements is finding the right one that works best for you because it all depends on how your body reacts to it. It may take some time and money to find the right one and once you do, I would recommend sticking with it. Here is a link to a web site that sells all kinds of herbal supplments for low libido and orgasm pleasure.
http://www.herballoveshop.com/health_concern/women/low_sex_drive.asp
http://www.herballoveshop.com/health_concern/women/orgasm_difficulty.asp
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Have sex with another guy and see what happens.
Try masturbation. You have to get to know your own body, then you can tell your boyfriend what he needs to do.
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You should see your doctor. I think that happens to a lot of women. There are things that can be done to help.
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Check with a doctor to see whether you have a physical problem...
it depends on if you have been through absue as a child or if it is a medical problem. one required a psych and another requires a female specialist. go get professional help because there can be medical problems that cause this
Get yourself checked by a doctor obviously (Don't be embaressed to talk about these things with them because it is often a sign there is something wrong that can be helped), You should have had an orgasm 10 years ago.
you either need a new guy or you really need to sit him down n share that you arent being satisfied. then carry him to the bedroom and TELL him what makes you happy in bed. TELL him what makes you have the big O. nothing else is gonna get you there
Your mate for life will give you an orgasm. Move on until you find the one. Don't be like the huge percentage of women who don't have an orgasm. It's not them, but they are just biologically not into their mate, and they should have had sex before marriage to find out, or not so desperate for a man's attention. And I'm retarded, and I know this.
well if you have problems with sex, you should both look over books about sexual intercourse and see in what way you can get an orgasm. Once you get to that point the rest will fall into place.
it may be something you need to see your doctor about,you might have a hormones out of balance,but your doctor would know .
testesorone is important to have a sex drive.
you may need some hormones. Go see your doctor and he can measure your hormone levels.
Are you taking any medications?
Have you ever had a sex drive or is this a new problem?
Try different things, experiment, different positions, etc. I am guessing you never had an orgasm with anyone else if you are not sure if you had one. The woman on top position is more likely to give you an orgasm as you get more stimulation. As far as a low sex drive goes it can be a result of many things such as being overweight, depression, stress, thyroid problems. So if that continues, you should see a doctor.
Maybe you can talk to him about it maybe you like it a particular way and is afraid to tell him. Let him know what you like in bed make it interesting use toys if you want ^_^.
How important is sex to you? Are you overweight? Unclean? Does he work 2 jobs? Perhaps he has a low libido. If you love him and want to keep him, learn to masturbate, or, consider an affair. But that is drastic. And a no-no for many. Only you know if it is you or not. Have a heart-to-heart. Understand, men want to think they are studs when they rarely use it. It's masculine pride. Perhaps...Viagra? Work it out. It will be for the best!
Talk.....and then talk some more.Talk without being confrontational or condescending.Tell him (or even better SHOW him.....!!!) how you like to be...ummmm......manipulated.
Do you have orgasms when you masturbate? Then show him how to "play your organ".
If you can't even climax by yourself....then you probably aren't in tune with yourself.
Does your boyfriend take his time? Or is he a "two-pump-Pete"?
Tell the boy to slow down and move his mouth down south...
Or just go to a bookstore and buy a self-help manual.Don't be embarassed by buying it.....after all,they sell it.
Some women have crazy hormones and can play havoc with their sex drive and their ability to have an orgasm. Talk to your GYN and have her take some blood tests to check your testosterone levels. You don't have to live like that, there's help available.
Does your boyfriend have problems getting it up (an erection)? Have you asked your boyfriend why he doesn't initiate sex? If you are hardly ever having sex then it’s quite understandable that you haven’t experienced an orgasm. You must talk to your man before you start blaming yourself. If you want to try to get things going, have you tried getting glammed up and making sexual suggestions to him? As far as the orgasm is concerned, it’s up to you to guide your lover and/or practice on your own to achieve one... lovers aren't mind readers! They can do things to you that MIGHT work but only you know what really will with trial and error.
Good Luck!!
You know What? This isn't funny! I am a man, and at 54 years of living I have been with some beautiful women! This lack of sex drive is a very bad problem! Damn he could love you to death, but isn't feeling the satisfaction of sex. Wow woman I wish there was a magic formula I could give you, but there isn't. I had a beautiful wide, and she is still a beautiful woman, we have been divorced since 1982, we liked one another, and still sort of love one another, but not sexually compatible. I am a mans man, I am a veteran, I am liked by woman. There was just something abut us that didn't click! Man that isn't taking anything away from her, and I don't think anything aways from me! She is beautiful, and I was handsome! ( too old now to be handsome!) She is still beautiful, but I am old!
Sometimes in life we just don't have it together! It doesn't mean we don love one another, or respect one another, it just means that we don't have it together! Damn we still “love” one another! It just didn't work out!
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