I want to help my mom!!!?

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OK, so my mom said that she is starting a diet tomarrow, i told her i would help her. i dont know how! i said that we have to go walking everyday. but i dont know how to motivate her. whenever i suggest to her eating something else she yells and screams at me, but then two seconds later she's crying because she hates herself and that she needs to loose weight. omg!! it makes me sooo mad!!! i want to help her though...

and dont you dare say anything about my mum if you know whats best for you

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It's so very hard to diet...and it's so nice that you want to help your mom. It is a very difficult situation that you are in, because you obviously don't want to hurt your mom's feelings nor get her angry with you. I think that it would really help your mom if you had a heart to heart talk with her & explain to her that you love her more than anything else...and you will always love her no matter what she looks like! But, explain that you are deeply concerned about the effects that her weight may have on her health and that you need her to be healthy & stay with you for as long as she can to watch you grow as a person, get married, go to college, have your own children...(depending on where you are in your life...) Point is...if your mom slips a little...go up to her and give her a great big hug and tell her how much you love her. Tell her that she has been doing so great & give her some options. Options like trying to find a better, less fatening recipe for what she is craving. Ask her to drink a nice big glass of water & go do something together. Go for a walk or just put on some music & dance around the house a little bit! What ever you do...be supportive to her & stay involved! Stay involved in her life & let her be involved in yours! Good luck to you!

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Aww that really stinks. I guess be as nice as you can to her, tell her that there are better foods she could eat and suggest something else. And make sure you tell her that you love her no matter what her weight.

i think some free pizza coupons would keep her off your back. by the way i think fat chicks are sexy

just makesure she eats when she is hungry and when she is eating like that u tell her 2 stop and she is mad just tell her"NO MOMIE CAN'T EAT THIS REMENBER UR ON A DIET?"and that's it

Donot make her feel as if pitying.
Try people around her ( sp. family ) doesnot ridicule her for her shape.
Introduce hr to healthy life with excrcise and food with video and books.
Moreover, as i far as i see people need caring and attntion in such situation rather than advising.

Sounds like she may need more help then you can give.... Suggest going to the Dr to make sure there are no health problems that make it difficult for her to lose weight or exercise. Then when she has a clean bill of health encourage her to go places that require exercise. Take a bike ride to the beach or park.... Engage in a game of touch football or frisbee.... Help her make dinner and suggest that you have veggies instead of french fries.... But don't push it as dieting... Say you would prefere it... If you go out to eat find places that have healthier choices ie subway instead of McDonald's...etc... Sometimes being a bit more subtle is all it takes... Tell her how much you love her and how wonderful you think she is all the time.... She needs the ego boost to encourage her to work harder...

Maybe you could do the shopping so that her only choices are healthy ones.

Well, being an overweight mother myself, I know how your mom feels. I am sure she appreciates anything you do to help her but she is feeling bad about herself when she makes poor food choices.

One thing I think would really help her...this may sound corny but I'll tell you anyway...is to try putting up little signs on the fridge or food pantry or wherever you may keep food she may want to avoid that say something simple like, "I love you mom and you're worth it!" or "I'm so proud of you, MOM".

I don't know, I think stuff like that would help me and it sure would be hard to yell and scream at your kid for doing something like that.

Good luck to you and your mum!

to suddenly change one's lifestyle is gonna be difficult... there is a secret to staying slim and yet eat all you want. Just make sure u have your meals in very small portions.. never over eat.. cut off sugar intake replace them with gree tea.. you will see results in no time. Some exercise will help you to tone up faster. Hope that will help your mom...you are a wonderful daughter.

This one is tough and I wish you all the best, here are some pointers for your consideration:

(1) No, you don't start a diet tommorrow, you start it now this exact moment.
(2) First thing though, I am glad that you want to help your mom, she needs all the help she can get - the best thing you can do for her is to be with her and that is not just a verbal thing, you have to live it with her (which is the tough part).
(3) Second thing is to clear your larder, fridge of all the identified no-no food stuff.
(4) Eat with her, if she has to take what she considers as "shitty" stuff, eat it with her, show her that you are in it together with her and suffering just the same. Although it wouldn't reduce her anger, she'd find it mighty hard to be angry with you.
(5) Don't suggest do, if you need to go for a walk, simply tell her "mom, let's walk" - don't have to explain (the moment a conversation starts that's when all the excuses start popping up).
(6) The case as I see it, is not a problem of motivation it is mainly an issue of discipline (or lack thereof), so try and not to let her have any moments where she would ponder over the situation.
(7) Set realistic targets - start with easy ones - let's loose 1 pound over a week, then aim slightly higher - the weight didn't get there overnight so don't try to go for crash courses - it is not healthy and neither would your mom be able to take it. This is probably the part where motivation is possible to be used. Once she sees some form of success, she would be able to use those as something to fall back that she can achieve things if she sets her mind to it.

Nonetheless it is still a tough job so I really wish you all the best.

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