Female Orgasms - Stopped Happening?
Question:
It bothers her a lot, but she always wants me to try again. Nothing happens. She thinks it's got to be psychological or emotional. Is it possible?
Answers:
Chances are it is emotional or psychological. Talk with her. Make sure she is feeling comfortable in the relationship. She might be trying to hard to bring it on faster because she feels like she's burdening you if she takes to long. Assure her that this is not the case.
Also, some women, with a very strong orgasm, will suddenly feel like they are going to urinate. This is an orgasm killer! Assure her that, if she is feeling this, it won't happen. You cannot urinate while having an orgasm.
You sound like a great, caring boyfriend.
Other Answers:
yes - just stop thinking to much. There can be a lot going on life and not reachable but still enjoy trying to get there! Keep trying.
Why not try using your meatstick? Do you even have one?
sure, it could be psychological, emotional, hormonal.
But gee, is she there to perform for you or do you love her and just being together is good? Things change, and it's ok.
The trouble with us females is that its not all about the physical, if she has absolutely anything on her mind, it affects sexual response, it happens, dont worry so much, its not YOU, and like she says, and its true, it still feels damn good.
she is frustrated becasue she ia almost there and then she stops you becaseu there comes a point where you just KNOW it isnt going to happen, it takes al ong time sometimes but its oh so worth it, its horrible thinking you're spending too much time down there, we feel rushed to perform??
i think you're very lucky with the woman you have because, although she had intense ones previously, she had TOLD you its not happening, therefore she is not FAKING it just to keep you happy,
good luck to you both, it will happen again, just relax. if she even suspects that your'e *EXPECTING* her to orgasm, she wont be able to, we're not wired like men, just physical stimulation isnt always the case for a result...
leave off the oral for a while, you CAN get too much of a good thing...
you need to switch it up, Like try having oral sex with her while using a vibrator in her vagina. I know for me, the same thing over and over again gets old and it gets harder for me to reach orgasm. Just try something new.
We have the suggestion above and:
Give her oral sex while fingering her azz.
Use the vibrator on her clit, while sticking your tongue in her vagina.
Try using different positions (her "kitty" on top of your face, doggy-style oral sex, 69)
Hope this helps.
Could be a couple different things....
1) She could have been faking it before and decided to stop faking after she realized this relationship was gonna go on for a while. Let's assume/hope this is not the case.
2)Could be she is not getting warmed up enough beforehand. That what it sounds like to me. If a woman is not "preheated", you can stimulate her clit all you want and nothing will happen. It may actually hurt. She didn't need you to arouse her as much before because just being with someone new was enough to do the trick. Now that it's not as new she may need some extra effort. So maybe she is enjoying it for a few minutes and then realizing it's just not gonna happen because she wasn't aroused enough beforehand and doesn't want you to waste your time trying to make her orgasm. Try to relax her first with a light soft touch and kisses all over her body, tease her and build the anticipation before you actually ever touch her genitals. When she is moaning and spreading her legs open for you without even touching her pubic area, then you're doing it right.
3) Also there's a possibility that you are stimulating her clit TOO much. Remember that her clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as your penis and they're all concentrated in that one little spot. Be EASY. Use the flat part of your tongue, not the tip. That tongue flicking thing you see in porn?? Forget it. It usually only feels good for like 3 seconds.
what she needs to do is concentrate less on having an orgasm , and concentrate more on the moment.
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