I slept with my step-brother..found out today that i'm pregnant...?
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woah.
that's tough.
I don't really know the answer to your question...but have you told your step-brother yet? He needs to know, and then maybe he can help you when you talk to your parents.
Good luck though.
PS. I came back and saw that someone advised you to give the child up, so I had to edit this.
NO!! Do not give away your baby if you don't want to. You will regret it! A baby needs the love of BOTH its parents, whether they are step-brother and step-sister or not. If you think about it, it is only the fact that your parents are married that causes any problem...obviously I am not saying that they need to break up, but it shouldn't really matter that you're having his baby.
AND abortion is morally WRONG! I can't believe people are suggesting it! How can you possibly condone the murder of a completely innocent child?!
Anyway, whatever your decision is, I hope it's right for you..and once again, good luck.
You need to tell them right away and to save any decent future you have in store you need to give the child up for adoption. The child if kept will be in the middle of a mess and Imay not be able to live normally. You should have been more responsible! In today's day and age it is just stupid to sleep with someone and no tbe protected.
First consult a gyne and see if he/she can do something. Or otherwise you have no option to tell your parents. How long can you hide this?
i dont think there is anything wrong with that ;genetically BUT the fact that your parents are married to each other makes it bad. i think you need to think about the consequences that having that baby might have on your whole family. i think you need to stop what you are doing, however "right" it might feel and start learning that when you feel that something is wrong then it probably IS
lucky guy, uhm well 1)he or you should of been wearing a condom 2)abortion 3) get away from him before your relationship gets too deep.
thats the best advice i can give you.
poor you,
first of all, you need to tell the father.
discuss it with him, before telling your parents, they will be undrrstanding
you should also go and see your GP, and maybe think about abortion, or, ultimately, adoption. talk you your family now, and think hard about what you're going to do.
shame on you!...ok...sorry for being rude.but u have to face it. its ur fault.adopt it(it might not be gud 4 ur health) or keep it.tell ur parents
I hope this has taught you not do this again. This should be the beginning of saying "NO." And meaning it. If not, you are going to be in a lot of trouble.
I can't tell you what to do with the baby, but I hope you don't give it away or abort it. Both, would be cruel.
If this were me, I would tell my step mother about this- if you have a good relationship with her, she may be able to guide you in the right direction and possibly talk to your father about it. If you go to your father, chances are because he is "YOUR DAD" dads tend to go off when their daughter gets pregnant at an early age- not married etc.. and less understanding about it much less the fact that the father is your step brother.
As for giving up the child, for me, this would not be an option because you will always wonder- and going through 9 months of pregnancy then hand it over to someone else, mentally this will pose emotional stress which you will carry through the rest of your life.
Talk to your step mother- prior to telling her ask that she please listen and try to understand what you are about to tell her, that you feel alone and need some guidence through this. (moral support).
ok thats just nasty
Pl. go for abortion do not delay.
at least the father can do a runner and say that he doesnt want the responsibility! talk about keeping it in the family!
you have several options, you can keep the baby however wierd that may be for the child growing up, he/she will have the same quality of life as any other baby as you are not blood relations and it will still have 2 sets of grandparents etc. you could abort and youir parents would never know, this is what i did when i got pregnant at 17, sure i regret it sometimes but then i think about the life i may have had and it seems that it was the best decision i ever made (regardless of how cold that sounds - it's true) however, i still get upset over it after all it is a life growing inside you. adoption is another option if you want to go down that route. personally i think that would be far more traumatice than abortion as you've actually held the child. nothing can take that image away and it will scar you mentally for life. tell your step bro first and you can work out together how you will tell your parents if you want to keep it, abort, adopt out.
given the oppurtunity to go back in time id have still gone through with the abortion because it was right for me at the time, i had no money, wanted to finish my education, and my bf was very abusive. you may feel very differently to how i did and you may love your step bro. think about it carefully and talk it through together so you have his views and things you may not have thought about.
hope this was of some help and comfort, if you want any info just email me and i will get back to you ASAP.
ummm..first off- eww
second- talk to him. does he know? the both of u should tell ur parents together...
Good Luck
You need to be able to physically sit down with someone you trust and can talk to. I know you need a hug right now. First of all, make sure the test was correct. Almost every city has a pregnacy help center. Go there and let them redo the test. These places have people who are actually TRAINED to deal with situations like yours. They will have information and advice about talking with your family. I think that would be the best place for you to go right now, talk with them first. I promise, these people will help you. Good luck to you honey, I really wish I coudl give you hug right now. Hang in there!
Ok, being with a step sibling isnt incest.
If it makes you feel any better, when my ex-stepbrother and I first met, our parents had just gotten back together (they'd been engaged 20 years before) and he and I just fell over each other. He was 2 years younger than me.
We didn't tell anyone until months after they were married, and even after his mother died 11 months later, we continued a relationship for another year until his grandparents (stepmothers parents) were able to try to have me arrested and filled his head with horrible things about me.
That's just letting you know you're not some freak...and I know others who have done it as well.
As far as pregnancy goes, that's difficult to tell parents anyway. You are 17, so it's not some HUGE deal. Does your stepbrother know? I don't know what your stance is on pro-choice issues, but visit a PlannedParenthood and talk to someone there about how to talk to your parents. They are very experienced :-)
OMG that's so weird...the poster below me...my stepmother's name was Penny...she was amazing when she found out about me and her son...she wanted it to stay that way, and the night she died...on their way out to eat (she choked) she said to my dad she would love for me to be her real daughter in law one day. :'-(
First of all it's not incestuous, step brothers and sisters have no blood relation whatsover. So legally you could marry him! If it was your half-brother or brother, that would be incestuous.
Best thing to do is dont make any hasty decisions until you've spoken to your step-bro about it, and you've come to terms with the shock of it all. Give it a few days at least, so you can let yourself settle from the shock.
If you do decide to tell your parents, make sure he accompanies you. Dont sit there and shoulder all the responsibility yourself. It's half his, half yours, so make sure he supports you with whatever you decide to do.
As far as explaining is concerned, just be straight with them and say 'this happened, that happened, and now this is the result, now where do we go from here'. Of course they will be shocked at first, but they too will settle and be able to steer you on a rational course.
Sorry about your predicament. I dont see any point in standing over you with a big stick and pointing fingers at you and calling you names. So make the best of this bad situation, and learn and grow as much as you can from it.
Best wishes, Penny xxx
Have an abortion, and then just forget about it.
All I have to add is I'm glad as hell your brother never wore a rubber [what's this condom crap ? you people slang all the other words]. For such a close, loving relationship, that was the right call. Skin to skin is the ONLY way anyhow. Further, you 2 know this child was conceived in love. Rubbers are for immature people who don't know how to screen & don't really care. There are many other positive points to be discovered as well. For 1, conceiving a fetus through a [semi] incestuous relationship lessens the complexity of the gestation period & beyond because all the details are within your immediate family. Involving others is entirely your decision.
Go to a doctor to confirm you are pregnant - check out Planned Parenthood if you don't want to go to your regular doctor.
It's normal that you would have feelings for your step-bro as you grew up with him and he's showing you attention and affection. However, why in the world wouldn't either of you used protection? That's besides the point now.
You also need to tell him, as soon as possible. Then decide what your options are and weather or not you are going to tell your parents. Good luck to you.
what is wrong with you people abortion get rid of it so what there is no blood in the family leave it to her i wouldnt worry about it theres no relation only by marriage leave her alone. everyone look at it this. way say you were in love with someone and then your mum. married his dad are you going to give your love up because. of that when yous were in love first if you. do your not really in love i say go for it have your baby tell your folks who cares what they say anyway no matter which way you go
good luck
if i were you id get an abortion...but thats me...if your going to keep it.you have to tell people.they will be cool.
dont worry...step brother is NOT incest.thats all cool. Its more like a good mate, so its good its him and not some seedy ******.
good luck
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