Stressed about this...help, please!?
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hey I totally understand what you are going through. I never had anything happen to anyone close that has to do with car accidents, but I just got my license a year ago (at 19). Now I've been driving for a year, and it got soooo much better. I still don't go on highways cause I'm scared, but i go sometimes when I'm driving with someone experienced like my mom or my older guy friends. My advice is, take driving lessons, and start driving around your town on less busy streets. And then after a while maybe you'll work up the courage and drive on busier streets. It gets better, trust me. And if worse comes to worst, you can always (after college) find a job at a big busy city like NYC or something, where you can take a train/sub/whatever and LOTS of people don't drive because of crazy traffics and no parking spots.
hynosis would help you get over your fears orhcounseling..thats alot to deal with .im sorry
First: Calm down. Don't worry so much. I understand that this is very emotional for you, but these things happen and in order to help moving forward, you have to calm down and think logically.
Next: Talk with your parents about them teaching you how to drive so that you are in an open and comfortable environment. After that if you are more comfortable, I know in many states you have to take professional driving lessons. Do that. This should also help your confidence and comfort. After that, take the test so that you have the ability to drive, you do not have to drive all the time, you would just be able to.
Best of luck.
I think as long as you are cautious while driving and obey the rules of the road you will be fine. Maybe if you just try driving short distances first and then eventually make them longer you will get over your fear. I'm sorry you have lost so many to car accidents that has to be hard. good luck
All I can say is you will have to do like I learned to do with my acute anxiety disorder , LET GO LET GOD, I go by this belief that we all go when its our time and if its not a car accident it will be something else, so please enjoy these very wonderful years now.
After you start, it will be easier. I would suggest going w/ mom or dad on the backroads in the country; like the dirt roads. Get out of town where there are fewer cars.
I know this sounds crazy, but I started driving dirt roads w/my dad when I was 12, on a stick shift! We lived way out where you wouldn't pass a car for an hour or two down those roads.
That will let you stop or go; fast or slow, at your pace. Once you master that, move on to something a little more advanced.
You probably need to speak w/ a university counselor about this. They usually offer the service for free. That doesn't mean you are crazy, it just means you have trouble coping w/ this. Anything that interferes w/ your life like that should really be discussed.
I really hope you do well. It isn't that bad. You just need to get in there and do it. It will get easier in time.
Sometimes the best way to deal with your fears is to just face them. Have you tried taking yoga to help with your stress and Anxiety? It always helps me out a ton (yoga) I Would suggest just taking baby steps with your driving. Call a driving school and set up lessons. They will teach you how to do K-Turns and Parallel parking. Then just take small trips. Drive to the mall, and then go home. Go by yourself to fill up the car with gas. and Remember to breathe! I would even recommend Visualizations to help you with your fear of driving. Imagine yourself getting in your car and arriving safely at your destination. and never ever underestimate the power of prayer. Think Positive Kid!
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