I have trouble using tampons.?
Question:
I need tips on how to feel more comfortable about the whole concept.
I don't know how I'm going to handle sex if I can't even handle a small tampon... But anyway... the intructions confuse me and my mom doesn't add much help.
I feel weird..
Can you girls help?
Answers:
Hi. Well first off you don't have to do it. There is no requirement and if you can't do it then that's okay. But I see you want to...fair enough...and you even know that the problem is that you're not very comfortable. What you're going to have to do is gradually get comfortable with what you've got down there. I can't tell you how to do it, you'll have to figure it out for yourself, but have you tried exploring? Figuring out what feels nice? Remember, it's your body, it's your asset, there is nothing wrong with it...you need to mentally figure that as you slowly explore around. It might take a while. But just find out what feels nice if you stroke yourself, or touch your clit, then see how you can handle the opening, maybe a finger, it will take a while to stretch it out but just relax and try...breathe deeply and don't get stressed...it's not something you have to do, it's your body and you've got your whole life...yeah okay I'm just trying to be helpful, I've never had that problem, basically just try and stretch it out gently, it will get better. Use small tampons. Look carefully at the instructions, at other ones online, find diagrams and match up everything there to your body (if you haven't already). And if it really doesn't work, you could see a doctor. There is a condition where the vagina muscles are too tight and treatment is necessary to dilate them. Good luck.
Hi really you just need to relax, i know its hard at first but once you get over the initial try then it should be ok. Make sure you read the instruations properly and relax so that you are not tense when you insert. If you reall are struggling try visiting your doctor who may be able to give you some tips on how you should insert it.
http://www.obtampons.com/using_ob.shtml...
Good luck and i hope you get there in the end.
http://www.ehow.com/how_1185_insert-tamp...
MAKE SURE YOUR HANDS ARE WASHED FIRST!
the key to inserting a tampon correctly is to be relaxed. take some deep breaths and think of nice things that happened during the day. it can take the better part of 5 minutes or better to relax and have the muscles relax. if you aren't relaxed it tenses up down there and you won't be able to insert it. that's a fact. the harder you try the tighter it will get down there. that's why most rape hurts physically, the muscles are tense and that makes penetration painful. it must also be angled at the correct angle and that comes with practice because my angle won't be your angle. all women are different. i suggest you buy a box of JUNIOR tampons and some ky jelly. TRY INSERTING WHEN YOU"RE NOT MENSTRUATING to avoid the mess. lubricate it up and insert to get the practice. the lubrication will act like the blood would normally and ease insertion. it will only take a minute to realize if you insert it right. i can tell by sitting down. you should not feel it once it's inserted. if you have it inserted and it hurts, with washed hands, take your finger and try to insert it deeper and get the feel for where it should be. don't keep it in longer than a minute, it's just for practice and don't ever reuse a used tampon. also, only do this twice at the most at a time, or you will be sore from practicing. do not leave a tampon in for longer than a minute or so, it will dry you up in there and it will hurt! set a whole day aside like a saturday to stay home, watch tv and insert tampons. that's how i learned and i inserted one in the morning and one in the evening for three days and learned that way twenty some years ago.
you associate that area as a sexual area and it makes you feel uncomfortable. no biggie, you will get accustomed to the idea! don't worry, it's part of being a woman.
There's no law that says you have to use tampons; don't force yourself to do it if you don't like the idea of it. If you think pads are uncomfortable, try switching to a different brand or wearing thinner ones (you'll have to change more often if you do this, though). Believe it or not, lots of people don't use tampons when they swim; my friend's whole swim team just went without them because, unless your flow is extremely heavy, you will actually seem to stop bleeding in the water! (This is a combination of the fact that the blood disperses in the water and the water will create enough pressure to keep the blood suspended inside you until you get out of the pool.)
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