I haven't had a sex drive for over a year... what can I do?
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As a side note.. I've gained 30 lbs the past year or so and I feel very nasty and ugly. That doesn't help.
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Did you know smoking can lower your sex drive? That is a real fact. Im in school for medical and I just learned about that. Any drug you take can affect your sex drive, even caffeine. You should definitely look into different doctors, research a little on the internet, WebMD is a great site, you should be able to find some answers there. Introduce a vibrator into your sex life, that may also help being it back up, good luck sweetie
well first of all you shouldnt have sex until your married. so i feel no pity for you.
Well, gaining weight could be from the pills or stopping smoking. The lack of sex drive could be from the pills or anxiety over gaining weight. They can do a blood test for hormone levels and see if you are producing too much or too little testosterone (yes women produce it too, and too much or little does weird things to people). There are also endocrine system problems that can keep you from having any real ups or downs in your hormones which make you pretty well blah over everything. If you are on birth control pills, they also can lessen drive (and make you gain weight as well).
Does your bf say anything about the weight? You can't listen to someone tell you how unattractive you are all day and open yourself up to him at night. Otherwise, it might just be a phase. I've gone through phases where my libido is up others where it's down. But, even if you don't feel like it, you should do it for him.
You need new doctor.
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it's probably the weight gain thats got you down. Psyche meds ruin your drive as well.
Buy yourself some new clothes, put on make up every day, get a nice haircut.
Get an herb known as horny goat weed-really, thats the name. It takes about a week to work, take it every day.
It won't make you jump your boyfriend, but it makes you feel sexy again. Gets the blood flowing again.
You are going to have to have sex to make you feel sexy again-just force yourself, in other words, make a commitment to have sex once a week or so-make the first move, whatever you have to do-just do it! You'll be glad you did. This happens in long term relationships sometimes-you must make the effort, it doesn't just happen anymore.
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