Female Orgasm Question – Specifically for the ladies...?
Question:
If your hubby/bf/signicicant other knows how to work his magic to put you in "happy shivers" land, and loves doing it (never gets tired of it either), why are you not requesting more of them?
I understand your busy schedules: work, kids, cooking, cleaning, laundry, play time for kids, personal time, relax time, sleep, etc. (good husbands try to keep it 50/50 or do more than necessary). Wouldn't another "O" make you feel a little better during the week – even if to just to completely forget about lifes worries for a few minutes (remember the Calgon commercial?).
I only asked this because I am still puzzled about the whole marriage/sex thing. Men would love it every day if possible. Women, no where near as much.
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A lot of things feel really good, and I'm sure we would all like to do more things that feel really good every day- but everyone works long hours, everyone is exhausted, and sometimes sex just isn't a priority. That's life dude. It has nothing to do with depriving ourselves of the pleasure that men provide.
Not to mention men think of sex like pizza - even when it's bad it's still sex. Women don't think of sex like that. And nobody wants mediocre pizza every day.
I'm not sure what you're asking...?
Of course I'd love it more than it happens, and I'm sure everybody would.
There's just no time/place sometimes.
Sometimes we just don't feel like it.
Sometimes just cause it makes your body feel good doesn't mean that it is always the right time. Plus if done too much it can and will not feel as good. Plus sometimes women would rather have romance then sex. It is all an emotional thing not a physical thing like orgasming is.
thats not true for all women, i am a single mother, BUT i still regularly have sex with my boyfriend about 6 or 7 times a day, any given day! talk to your wife about it! maybe she just has a low sex drive
You are being quite general---sometimes it's the female with a high sex drive and her male sexual partner whose is lower...hmm, I just described my life. It's frusterating, but the odds of two people getting together with identical sex drives is slim.
I don't think the problem is lack of time, I think the problem lies with the couple.
Maybe the man isn't pleasing the lady, therefore she can't be bothered to want it everyday!
well for me sometimes it feels like the relationship i have with my bf is based on sex if it is a daily thing. if your constantly asking for it thats just how it seems. and sometimes even if you really want to thaings happen and it just isn' t possible.
This is not true...Women want it just as much, we just handle it differently. We can do it faster by ourselves. It is tiring to come home from work, do everything around the house, then wait for your husband to come home and "take care of you". I always said I would never get married strictly because of the sex issue...Well, I got married and now after only 2 years, I'm lucky if I get it once a week...DON"T GET MARRIED! Also, there is no husbands that do 50% of the house work...I'd have a heart attack if I saw 10% get done...
what are you talking about!? who said we don't want it as much!! what girls are lying to you? i want it everyday, every minute
I can't have an orgasm through vaginal intercourse and sometimes we just don't feel like it.
i can only see how horney these women are
I love sex, but for me personally it takes a huge amount of effort to achieve the Big "O", not physically, but mentally. If I am by myself and the mood strikes, it's a good five minutes and I am done. But if I have to deal with sex and making the right noises and pleasing my boyfriend, it's just all such a chore. It takes a whole lot of concentration to have an orgasm for me. And yeah, it feels great, but it's another thing to add to a busy day/week that sometimes you are just not in the mood for. Sometimes just the thought of someone entering into my personal space, my body, is just too much.
Some people just have higher sex drives than others, and some people want to be left alone when they get home from work/kids/traffic/school/hell. I think it's just a matter of personal taste. But just think about the actual intercourse and if you were having a horrible day and just wanted pjs, fried chicken and a couch and you are expected to open up your body to someone, not to be graphic, but really think about being penetrated, sometimes it's just too much.
Yep, when hubby and I do it I have 'em. Lots of 'em. And I enjoy them thoroughly. However, for me, sex is one more demand on my body at the end of a long day of raising my kids, taking care of my house, catering, grocery shopping, school, cleaning traumas up off the side of the road, and what-have-you. It's too hot, I'm too tired and it just ain't happening. Maybe the "problem" is that women can't just start it up and get it going like guys can. It takes time for us to "warm up". That and some of us just don't go in for the "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" session. I'd like to enjoy myself, and that takes time. There's also post-nookie cleanup to think about too. So no, it's not as simple as "forgetting about life's worries for a few minutes". I wish it were that simple! I don't expect someone who isn't at this point in their lives to "get it" though. I'm just putting in my two cents.
Anyway, a man worth being married to will respect this and even understand it a little. Mine's actually pretty good about it, so I'm fortunate.
You're making a lot of assumptions: First, that all (or even most) women have enjoyable sexual experiences. Second, that the men who are with these women know how to induce them. Third, that women don't start each day with the possibility of sex.
For those who do orgasm easily, have trained their partners to provide said "O," and do want them more often, there are a lot of other factors. Sex is an ordeal for women. It takes energy, time, concentration, preparation, and a good emotional state. If we're stressed, tired, feeling hurt or unappreciated, we won't want it. If the house is dirty and the kids are screaming, we can't imagine having it. If we're still fuming over last night's argument, forget about it.
So, set the stage. Do some cooking and cleaning, some kissing and holding hands, some good conversation, add an "I'm sorry," or an "I owe you one," and see where it gets you.
I don't know what women you have been talking to, but I would love to have sex every day. And at times when I can stay up late or sleep in the next day, I would love to do it more than once. I think many women have been taught that only men have healthy sex drives, and only men should initiate sex, so they shy away from letting their true desires be known. I have always believed that if you want it, go for it. I always make my wishes known.
Well this might be a bit of info for you, but I don't need my husband to get me to orgasm. Some times, us gals just don't want to put up with the "mess" that comes with sex. AND we can get sore if it's done too often. I can just put in a new set of batteries and crank up my "toy"...I can have all the orgasm I want and don't have to take a shower afterwards:-) As a matter of fact, as a child, I had an accident that destroyed some nerve endings in that area, so I can't orgasm without the vibrator. FYI, I don't insert, so I can also use it when my husband and I are together.
Ok men need sex, they need to orgasm ! Women dont need to orgasm , sure it feels great when we do, but we just dont need it. I guess its really hard for guys to understand , but thats it really Guys need it girls dont sorry.
It is really hard to switch from being mommy to being a sexy siren plaything. Do you come home from work and be expected to turn off work mode w/o relaxing?? Well, moms are sooooo busy that we tune out that sex station a lot. We never end our job.. always on gaurd. My suggestion would be to be really extra patiant w her and sensitive like always tell her she is doing awesome. tell her she is gorgious even all worn out, but not sexy gorgious. if you pressure her it will feel like another demand like how children always demand. like another duty or chore. best advice: drop it. dont touch her sexually (that is pressure), and just love her as a women. after a while, she will realize she loves you more than ever for being understanding, and after that a woman can feel giving of her sexlife. dont touch her and wink, or even mention sex. dont hint at it either. only tell her you are there for a shoulder to cry on. emotional love makes a women feel better enough to have sex. otherwise, remember, it feels like just another chore, or demand on top of her life. oh yea, and an orgasm is nothing great if you were pressured into having sex. an orgasm is the least of a busy womans concern because her emotional fragilness is busting out the seams. please take my advice, and a woman usually likes to feel an emotional orgasm in love. trust me.
For me it's more of an emotional thing than a physical one. I think women need a romantic closeness with their husband to enjoy any physical activity in the bedroom. It's like Anda and many others said: If the kids are screaming we can't even imagine it. If we are stresses or hurt or feeling unappreciated we don't want it. And if we're still angry about an issue with our mate, forget it. So it's definitely more mental for women and much harder, but when it does happen we love it just as much! Just try to make sure you keep your romantic closeness with your woman, make your time together special and important, make sure she feels like she's #1 in your life (not friends or work) and throw in some "I love you's" and a little romance (hold her hand, open the door for her, leave her a little love note-it doesn't have to cost anything) and it will probably make it lots better for her, but the longer these things are missing, the longer it may take to get it back. That's just my personal feelings & thoughts. Hope you can work it all out because it is a very special thing and it will let you know your relationship as a whole is a happy one!
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