Hmmmm...please help?


Question:
is it me or do i always jus pick the assholes.i mean i been wit my man for 1year and 4months an i have a 4month year old baby who by te way is so handsome...but thru out the time we been together he's cheated on me, never lied, he puts me down is bi polar so he gets mad off lil s*** and he is kinda abusive in a way...so i love him so much thats why i been putting up with him but lately i just dont know what t do because it was worst in the beginning then it got better but now is starting baack up again. But when he is not acting this way he makes me feel good about myself an knows what i want an he is very nice an sweet but he just has a bad side to him i dont like

Answers:
If he's abusing you in anyway, emtionally, mentally, or physically, end it. They will say they're sorry but don't mean it. Sometimes, if you're lucky they really are sorry, and if that is true then tell your husband he needs to seek help, a psychiatrist to give him advice and medication for his abusive behaviour, and if he doesn't already, he should be taking medication for his bi-polar condition.
My mum always told me, if any guys abused me in anyway to leave, because she was abused by her husband for 16 years, and finally left him.
Get him to take medication, and seek medical help..If he doesn't want to do that, then it goes to show, that he's rather be with you and make your life miserable, because of him being selfish of not wanting to do the right thing, than to get the medication, and live happily and have a happy family.

..Because hun, in the long run, all that matters is your children, and if he is ever a threat to your children, you know it's time to go. So give your child the life he needs, and no child should have to experience abuse in their life wether it be to them or their family members.
Take care!
xx
Life is too short to be in ANY abusive relationship. Home OR work. Time to say goodby to this guy. There is a LOT of computer services out there and advertise on TV where you will find someone better.
That is what abusers do. They make you feel low as hell then treat you good to get you to think (and maybe themselves too) that they are good people. He may love you but it's hard to love someone when you don't love yourself. Does he love himself?

I was in this situation but much worse it took him cocking a gun to my head to get away. And I was still sneaking to see him. I had to move to another country to get away. A lil extreme I know. I could have just walked out.

And your child is going to see all of this. Do you ant him to end up like his dad?

You need to do some soul searching girl.
I agree with the comments above do not settle for what you know is a bad choice cute or not I have learned the hard way get out and get help. A little abuse is too much.
you are in a verablly abusive relationship that is destructive to you and your child. get the book, the verbally abusive relationship by patricia adams
this is serious and will not only damage your self esteem (already has or you would not be with him) BUT WILL DAMAGE YOUR CHILD. this either needs to stop or you need to leave him. read the book, it wil help you. you can find the book at http://marriage.about.com/cs/domesticvio...
you can also go to the websites
http://www.verbalabuse.com/3.shtml...
http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abus...
to start to see how damaging and destructive it is
Think logically and weigh all the pros and cons and decide.
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