Im 22 and I have No Sex Drive. How Can I raise my libido? What kind of Doctor should i see for this?
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I'm the same way. I'm a few years younger, in a great, healthy relationship, but I have no sexual desire. I still like being with him, talking, and SOMETIMES cuddling, but I have no desire to even kiss. I know as well as you do, this is a huge problem.
I once read an article about how birth control can have this effect on some women.
I don't know about you, but I plan to ask my gyno at my yearly visit, which happens to be tomorrow. If I get any good answers, I'll tell you, okay?
good you shouldnt have one. you shoudlnt be having sex until you are married. >:-O dont do it
You should speak to your Primary Care Physician. They can check to be sure there is no medical condition causing you to feel this way and then refer you to the proper doctor. In most cases your Primary Care Physician should be your first stop for a new diagnosis or referral.
try eating lots of chocholate. Chocolate contains high levels of phenylethylamine, whitch is the chemical that your body releases when ur in love. Also try asperagus, it contains lots of iron and that helps your body produce another love chemical. Also try going to the beach more. Pills never really work...
the person who responded that you shouldn't have any is ignorant. There could be some hormonal imbalance in you. Are you on birth control too? I recommend that you go see a gynecologist
anti depressant meds can definitely affect sex drive and other things related to sex
Lack of sex drive (lack of libido) is common in women, but quite rare in men. The American Medical Association has estimated that several million US women suffer from what doctors there call 'female sexual arousal disorder' (FSAD).
However, there seems to be an FSAD bandwagon, driven by doctors who think that nearly half the female population (43 per cent) lack sex drive. Such a high number really doesn’t seem likely.
In the UK, family planning clinics and Relate clinics see quite large numbers of women who complain of low libido. Our estimate is that at any one time, several hundred thousand women in Britain are troubled by lack of sex drive.
Many of these women have no problems with having orgasms. Rather, they have no real desire to have sex and their minds are not turned on by the prospect of love-making.
Fortunately, for many women lack of libido is only temporary. Some will get over it by themselves, and a lot more can be helped by expert medical or psychosexual advice.
What are the causes of lack of libido in women?
As is the case with men, lack of desire in women can be of either physical or psychological origin.
Physical causes
Anaemia, which is very common in women because of iron loss during periods.
Alcoholism.
Drug abuse.
Major diseases such as diabetes.
Post-baby coolness, a term we have coined for the loss of libido that often happens after childbirth. It is almost certainly linked to hormonal changes that occur at this time. The general trauma of childbirth also plays a part - and after having a baby, many women are too exhausted to think about sex.
Prescribed drugs, particularly tranquillisers.
Hyperprolactinaemia - a rare disorder in which the pituitary gland is overactive.
Other hormone abnormalities: leading Swiss gynaecologist Dr Michael Nemec claims that abnormalities in the production of luteinising hormone (LH) often cause lack of desire. And top British gynaecologist John Studd says that many women who have lost their libido lack androgenic (male) hormones. This view remains controversial.
You may be surprised that we haven't mentioned the menopause as a physical cause of loss of desire.
Contrary to myth, the menopause doesn't usually cause loss of libido, and many women feel a lot sexier and have more orgasms in the postmenopausal part of their life.
Psychological causes
These causes are very common. It's understandable that when a woman is having a bad time emotionally, she may lose interest in sex.
Psychological causes include:
depression
stress and overwork
anxiety
hang-ups from childhood
past sexual abuse or rape
latent lesbianism
serious relationship problems with your partner
difficult living conditions, eg sharing a home with parents or parents-in-law.
What should a woman do about lack of libido?
Start by going to your GP, who can discuss the problem with you and do any necessary tests.
An alternative is to go to a woman doctor at a family planning clinic, since these practitioners are used to dealing with this particular problem.
Unfortunately, in the last couple of years family planning clinics have become swamped with patients, and many of them now won't take on psycho-sexual difficulties.
If psychological or relationship factors are predominant, it may well be worth going to Relate or Relate Scotland. They are very experienced in these matters.
Are there any medicines for female loss of desire?
While it’s clear that the big pharmaceutical companies are searching for a drug that will turn women on, they have had little success.
At present, drugs are not of much relevance to the average woman who wants to pep up her libido a bit.
Far more important is to have the support and understanding of a partner who wants to help you defeat the problem - and who understands how to get you excited in bed.
my wife was having the same thing happen to her at the same age your are when she was 22 but now she is 37 years of age in still active we went to the doctors in she help us both cope with it because the doctor lady help us we allmost lost each other because of my wifes sex drive she did not have after she had are daughter
I have a wife that's the same way and she wont seek help and she it not on any medication. Read on the Internet if this medication can do this. If yes see the doctor that prescribes it maybe there is another or hi might suggest something. Get plenty of rest minimize your stress if you have it. Ask your partner to start every session even if you are not in the mood and that you need allot of gentle foreplay. It's great that you are looking for help.
i think you have answer your own question. when you said your on medication for anxiety. this would certainly cause you to lose your sex drive. as for a doctor any general practioner will do.
To the woman who said you shouldn't be having it. What happens when she is married and her husband has to force her to have sex? The question was not about when she should have . It was about not having a drive at all. Married or not, thats not healthy for the relationship, especially if the other partner has an average or high drive.
I suggest asking your gyno and meditating about what really excites you sexually.
I'd start with your family doctor for a check up, especially the one who put you on the anti-anxiety meds. You might just need a change in dosage. Then you might be referred to an ObGyn or an endocrinologist (hormone specialist) if your doctor doesn't find something obvious.
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