When i have sex it hurts alot and i dont get ver wet...?
Question:
Questions:
1. Why has sex never felt good for me?
2. Why can he not sometimes get it in?
Answers:
You need to buy some lube, you most properly now have a mental block that you are not going to enjoy sex, you are not going to get wet, so you don't.
Have a bottle of wine, relax and have lots of foreplay. Get some massage oil (baby oil will do) and let him massage you, you need to take the focus off him trying to force himself into you and just enjoy touching each other.
Then excuse yourself, nip to the toilet and rub some lube inside yourself and go back and enjoy! You can buy lube in the supermarket next to the condoms and if you apply it in the bathroom no need to feel embarrassed!
Good Luck, I really hope you get this problem sorted!
very simple usually. ur just not comfortable so you cant relax down there. mb spend more time getting to know one another.
Maybe your body just isn't really ready to have sex, your not in the mood or your not really comfortable with the idea of having sex. If your using condoms there are ones with the "lube" already on it and that should helps things "in".
You should see your GYN and discuss why and what options there are in order to correct the problem. It maybe hormonal or psychological. There maybe other reasons as well only your GYN can determine.
Doesn't sound like you are ready- a woman has to be "turned on" to have sexual intercourse comfortably. Suggest that your guy spend more time on foreplay - you should know when you are ready- don't let your guy rush you.
He not getting you excited so you are dry.
He probably can't get it in because you are tense because you know it will hurt.
Use Durex play lube, it's for fun, try the one called feel, it's not very expensive about £3 from Boots.
Or get a new man.
your not getting enough foreplay!
Find yourself another fella, a giving one lol
Has your fella given you oral? this would definately cure the dryness problem and possibly the foreplay issue too, hey it works for me.
Ok this is from a guy so im not seeing it exactly from a womans point of view, but here goes! Make sure you're really aroused before actually trying penetration, do loads of foreplay, lots of kissing and touching first. Dont be embarressed to use lube either, it make sex alot more pleasant sometimes for both partners, but dont use lube as a replacement for your own natural wetness, use it to help. Basically dont rush sex, if he cant 'get in' then dont force it because that'll cause pain. And as the saying goes, practice makes perfect ;o)
When I first started it hurt too and it did for a while. I think a lot has to do with how wet you are, this would also explain the trouble you experience getting it in. The more foreplay the better, it really helps get you wet, also you have to be comfortable with that person cause emotional detachment can have physical results.
If sex has never felt good for you it is likely that you are very tight and not producing enough natural lubricant. Buy a bottle of lube and try it, if you find that embarrassing, apply it in the bathroom.
I agree about the lube.dont be embarrased. Just relax and try not to rush into sex at the beginning.
do you and him have foreplay? maybe you should try it there are also lots of diddferent lubricants out there that you both could use in foreplay that could be very exciting. if it is bothersome chech with your gyne your hormones could be off and you may need to get them ajusted
You'd rather be in pain that use lube? Why?
Relaxing, foreplay, being fully aroused or better yet, you having an orgasm FIRST or using a lubricant like KY-Jelly or Astro-Glide can help.
My guess is that it's never felt good because you don't even know what you like. Have you ever had an orgasm?
Get him to go down on you and give you a good licking for half hour that should get you going and get you wet for the big event.ok
i have the same problem, lube does help in some respects but above all you have to learn to relax. your body is tensing up because you think its gonna hurt but it may not have if you werent so worried.
breathe and relax!
I think your main problem is that you dont get wet enough, maybe you're nervous and much other things, try to relax and enjoy
your partner needs to arrouse you first.men do tend to jump straight in.they need to kiss you maybe on the neck and go from there.
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