Hello? sex advice!!?
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First off, foreplay will help a lot. It'll get you more relaxed, more into your man, and also most importantly make you more wet.
When you are ready, go put on some lube on him and on urself. This way, it's easier for him to enter. Obviously, it is going to painful but it is better to keep going then stopping in the middle of it.
Another piece of advice would be masturbation. both you and ur partner can participate in fingering you. It'll break the hymen a little and it wont be as bad.
Spit on it.
You aren't doing anything wrong, that's how it is the first time (sucks don't it).
Since I'm sure you're using condoms, make sure you get a lubricated one and just tell him to be gentle and patient with you. The first time is going to hurt, that's what we women have to put up with.
LUBE!
Yeah this is quite normal for first timers...lets face it these things take practice. Next time try to make sure you're in a really comfortable environment, have extra lubricant on hand and work on the foreplay part of the sex for a while, focus on what makes you feel good. When women are aroused (via some mighty fine foreplay) our body's excrete a natural lubricant and if you're relaxed comfy and enjoying yourself then it is less likely of any muscles tensing up and causing the painful friction feeling during entry. So just let your boyfriend know that we not only need foreplay for fun but also need it to make the whole sex experience easier and feel better. I'm sure he'll be happy to do whatever makes you feel good.
make sure you both are well lubricated. He was probably encountering your hymen. He is going to tear it, and it might be painful, but remember it's normal.
Okay these are my suggestions.
Lots of foreplay. The more naturally lubed up, the easier it is to get it in. Also when the body is aroused, it accomodates for the new "visitor" haha.
Have some lube handy just in case.
Tell him to take it slowly and if you're in missionary position, possible try you being on top. Being on top helped me lose my virginity because i was in control of the speed of penetration, and i could change the angle slightly when his **** hit the wrong spot. Also try moving your hips slowly in a tiny circular motion, helped me :)
If it doesn't happen again, don't worry. You've got plenty of time to try again. Don't rush it or you could damage yourself.
G'luck and happy sexin' :)
Do more of foreplay. Use lubricants. Go in slowly, without using too much of force. It should work unless you are trying the wrong hole.
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