Is it "wrong" that I'm not taking birth control? What are your thoughts on this?
Question:
The reason I'm asking this question is because, all of my girlfriends are on birth control (that I know of) & they all have side effects from it... such as major weight gain and acne.
This is the reason I have stayed away from birth control - In fear that it's going to have strange effects on my body, and I don't want that.
So, in your opinion, do you think that it's ok if I continue sex using men's protection only, and not birth control?
Your thoughts on this are appreciated...
Answers:
Oh there's nothing wrong with it. In fact, that's a better arrangement than taking the pill all the time.
Birth control is expensive and also they have a lot of side effects, because you're altering your hormones. I don't think a lot of girls take that into consideration when they get on the pill. It's a contraceptive, but it also alters your hormones in a big way and that's not something to be taken lightly.
Although the pill is more effective than condoms, there's really absolutely nothing wrong with you using condoms every time rather than you being on the pill. As long as both you and your boyfriend are ok with the arrangement, there's nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
You aren't being neglectful, you are still using some form of birth control. I wouldn't say its "wrong" at all. The reasoning behind your choice NOT to take it is understandable. Its your sex life, you have weighed the options and decided what works best for you and your boyfriend...that's all that matters.
I am surprised by your reasons for not taking the pill. In fact BC pills have been used to treat acne! And, according to the Mayo Clinic, "women often blame the birth control pill for weight gain. But studies have shown that the effect of the birth control pill on weight is small — if it exists at all."
Condoms are not always effective (no contraception is) so if you are absolutely sure that you are ready to accept a pregnancy in the event that it occurs then keep doing what you have been. If you are not ready, then why not give the pill a try? If your partner is free of STDs, condom free sex may be more pleasurable for both of you. You could also use the pill in conjunction with the condom for double security. Talk to your Gyn or doctor about the pros and cons of the pill for you.
You have valid reasons for your thoughts. The most important thing is that you are using some form of protection. In the end the only person who's opinion in this matters (besides yours) is your boyfriend's.
as long as you are ok with getting pregnant since there is a much higher chance that you will. doesn't mean that you will but it does mean that you can. so if you are ok with that then why bother with the pill.
I don't think there's anything "wrong", although there are further steps you could take. It's great that you use a condom every time, but you may want to consider a non-hormonal backup like a diaphragm or sponge. Everyone's different, hormonal birth control doesn't appeal to everyone and that's ok.
If you're both happy, it's perfect!! :D
There are plenty of woman who do not use bc and are still sexually active. That is your personal preference.
you should just be aware that sometimes condems break, sometimes sperm still get through, so if you are willing to take that risk then your fine. its a small chance, but if it happens its a huge resposibility. talk to your doctor and discuss what types of birth control you can take and which ones possibly have less side effects. birth control is a really good way to prevent unwanted pregnancy. you could always try it out and if the side effects are too bad, then quit. but your body is different from your friend's body. some ppl gain weight, others dont. you will never know unless you try
Condoms have a 2-3% ffailure rate, so in a sense, you are playing Russian roulette. Why not try the pill and see if you have the side effects that concern you. Think.are you ready to have children? If not, use all precautions available. What's a few pound compared to taking on the raising of a child for 18 years?
I think you are true on this, I used to take yasmin and I got so wrong, bloated, swelling in all my body really all my body. My blood pressure went up. terrible.
I stopped it, and I´m not having any bc anymore, we are going with the condom and I think I will get the mirena IUD, but as you know bc pills, are hormones and are no good for you as well as the disorders they cause and mybe cancer.
I think you´re doing well, in my experience
Good luck! ;D
If your using protection and being safe, birth control is not necessary. It might be a good idea though. You have to weigh your options. Baby or Acne/weight gain.
I think that as long as you're willing to accept the fact that you're not 100% safe and are willing to raise a baby or give it up for adoption, then who cares what other people think.
You should know that every BCP has a different level of hormones & so does every person.so they affect each person differently. I've taken several pills without a single side effect, and have taken another that's nearly killed me.
I personally don't like the idea of taking a BCP but it's medically necessary, so I don't have a choice.
It's your life, as long as you realize that actions have consequences and you are willing to live with those, do whatever you want.
Talk to your doctor about ALL the types of birth control. Many don't have side effects. Condoms are good but not 100%. It only takes a pinhole to get you pregnant. Are you prepared for the time, money and responsibility of raising a child??Can't feed em, don't breed em. Besides- he will LOVE not wearing a condom!
No, it's not wrong at all. Birth Control does totally mess with your body and it's completely understandable that you don't want to use it.
Personally though, I am too scared of getting pregnant to use just one form of birth control. So I'm on the pill and he uses protection as well.
But see - I'm a crazy paranoid person. You're not. So I think you should go right ahead and do what works for you.
I understand what you are saying. I chose to go off because it made me sick, after 7 different birth control changes I chose to go with the implanon. It's a form of birth control in your arm for 3 years. It's not wrong, just be aware that you can get pregnant. All the best to you. :D
It's not "wrong" as long as you acknowledge there's a risk associated with only using one form of birth control.
Have you considered a non-hormonal birth control method like a diaphragm or an IUD? (If you're interested in using anything)
Birth control is the responsibility of both people - but if you both are aware there's still a chance you could become pregnant (despite his CF) then it's OK because it's what works for you. Should you ever be in another relationship, don't think that's going to hold up :)
Also, why doesn't he go ahead and get tested for his sperm count? That way you'd know for sure.
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