I am being stalked by a crazy neighbor!?
Question:
What should I do? How do you deal with a person like this?
Answers:
What do the notes say ?
She might just be friendly since you have only just moved in.
If the notes are nasty or abusive keep them as evidence, in case she ever does anything strange, that way you can report her to the police for harassment.
She may also want to be your friend if she is lonely, since she doesn't work there might be a reason for that.
Try talking to her, if you don't want to just explain to her that you don't like her following you, but you don't mind talking to her if she ever wants a chat - As long as it isn't about other people in the community ( Since you say she pokes her nose in other peoples business. )
record every "crazy" thing she is doing that is scaring you, contact the local police and make a formal complaint. There are stalking and harrassment laws. You can have someone arrested for stalking/harrassment for leaving a nasty message on your answering machine..I thinnk a few years ago I would have been too scared to do that.but I think now, I just came to a point where I realized I didn't have to live in fear anymore. (I read to many "true crime" books haha)
Just ignore her. I know it may seem hard to do, but she probably has nothing else to do and you are the newest in the neighborhood so you have given her something to do, it probably will stop.
Keep the notes (as evidence,,,,time and date them) and if she gets to the point of being overbearing, warn her you will contact the police and get a restraining order. If this makes her mad, then get the restraining order or it will only get worse. Tell her your life is none of her business and you prefer she keeps her distance from you. It is best to have a plan in place. She may complain to other neighbors about you not liking her, but you are in control of your life, not her or them. If anything happens to your vehicle, they will have someone to look at as a suspect..
Good luck!
Well there are two things that you can do..one is nice and one is "rough" however either will solve your problem. Remember that if she isn't working, she is simply looking for things to occupy her time and is probably lonely...having said that here are your choices.
1) Ignore her, when she has left notes, crumble them and leave them for trash outside the door. Tell her you are busy and what not if she approaches you for a conversation, or a snoop session. Pointedly avoid contact with her (i.e. look the other way, take a different route to your apartment etc.) .
2) Tell her flat out to stop bothering you, and that while you appreciate her interest, you aren't in the market for new friends and that you are more of a private person.
Just remember that you never know when you may need someone!! Good Luck!~
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