I've had a traumatizing labor, now I despise sex!?
Question:
I used ot be this sex craved female, but alas.
Everytime my husband tries to touch me it makes me think of labour, and a part of my body I dont want to feel anymore.
It doesnt help I keep gaining weight since Ive given birth either, I hate my body so much, its a vicious circle, cause more I hate my body less I want to go out, I havnt left my house in 2 weeks.
I dont know what to or how to improve things, exercise doesnt work either. I think of sex and my whole body cringes, the thought of having "my parts" touched will only remind me of labor.
Any ways to get over this? My poor husband he is so supportive and doesnt pressure me at all.. I wish I could be like I was before I gave birth. I was having sex twice a day up until the day before I gave birth!! This is so unlike me.
Answers:
You say 5 months as though that is a long time.Have you talked to your doctor about this? Your body is still dealing with the flux of hormones, and readjustment, not to mention having to readjust when your weight changes. I suggest talk to your doctor, get a GOOD counselor, and a massage therapist (really, they can help release the negative as much as a counselor). Continue to talk openly about this with your husband.slowly rebuild the intimacy that you felt with him before, eventually it will come back.
you need to talk to someone soon....seek help...
You should talk to a therapist. Sounds more like depression. Be fair to yourself and your husband and look into it.
fiddle with your diddle...
My wife had a very LONG labor also, she also went through sex "withdrawl" It was a while before she was "back to normal" Only you will know when you are ready. Your husband being supportive is you best therapy, and when you are ready you can swing for the fences again. Good luck
See your doctor. It sounds like you may have post partum depression.
it could be depresstion it happens alot after birth talk to your doctor he can reffer you to a specilist
It sounds like you are experiencing depression as well. Get to a doc and get treated for it, if that doesnt help, you might consider going to a counselor or pshycologist for help. It is normal to lose your sex drive after birth. I did this, and was depressed along with it. I got on meds for my depression and it has helped wonders. Make yourself get up and out of the house. Make yourself get a dressed up. Take the baby for an outing. Keep making yourself do this and you will feel a little better, but it is very important to see a doctor as soon as possible.
i went through the same thing when i had my second child.
a really bad labor.
it took me 6 months to let my husband touch me.
and at first i hated it .
i just did it to make him happy.
then as the weeks passed it got better.
i still think about that labor,but now it has been almost 5 years since.
u need to get out of the house.
the more u dwell on it the worse u will feel
go for a walk with your baby at the park.
or go shopping that always helps me.
just in joy that fact that u have a baby.
some weman would go through hell just to be able to carry and give birth to there own baby.
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