Embarrassing Question.?

Question:

My boyfriend and I have been together for like 8 years. I dread having sex with him because it's horrible. It hasn't always been like this. It is sometimes very hard to talk about anything with him, I feel like I will hurt his feelings. He just pounds me, he won't let me on top even though I try. He puts all his weight on me and moves his whole body, not just his torso part. It's just like he's laying there shaking or somthing. He also stares at my face the whole time like he is dead and never blinks, it kind of creaps me out. What can I do to make things better? When I try to talk to him, he doesn't listen he just keeps on doing the same thing.

Answers:
You need to sit him down in a non-sexual setting and speak candidly with him about this. Tell him that you are not enjoying your sex life because of what he is doing. Explain that you want him to be more gentle, and that you would like to be on top every once in a while. If he doesn't change, despite your conversation, you may need to start withholding sex from him so he understands that you are serious. Also, if you are faking orgasms when you have sex with him, stop. If he thinks you are having orgasms, he thinks he is doing something right, and will continue to do the same things. If he notices that you are not having orgasms, he may realize that he needs to make some changes.

Go to a sex therapist.. or buy a "How To" book and leave it in his car or something.

Um, that sounds really sucky. Say you awnt to try something new and hand cuff him to the bed and then get on top and maybe he'll realize that he likes it a lot better that way.

omfg! u got 2 leave him n get a better sex life. i dont know how u bare with that!??

you may as well find you a new b/f ,you will do it sooner or later if the sex isn't good anyways

And you let him have sex with you?

Sorry, that is a little strange.. If he can't talk to you about this then you may want to think about leaving him..

Do a different sex position, such as let him be behind and you get on your knees facing forward, AKA doggy style.

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