What do you do when your SO has future plans on his/her own?
Question:
You dream one day to share a life with your SO
Your being doing the best you can to make things work out with your SO
But then you find out on your own that he/she has other plans that doesn't include you and he/she hasnt talk to you about it.
Now you feel helpless, sad, you feel like you been working for nothing, he/she is leaving (he/she doesn't know that u know all this) you feel like you are lost without him/her...what do you do next? How to stop feeling this way?? Why does it feel that when he/she will be gone everything will be worthless?
Help!...thanx
Answers:
I am so sorry to read how bad you feel about your friend or lover. Being an old lady myself and having had a lot of experience is all sorts of love affairs, some that broke my heart, some I broke others hearts. This is life. You should feel sad and lonely and lost, that is totally normal. The pain will subside slowly, its like any wound that need healing, time heals everything trust me. Before your friend is gone maybe you should be the one to open the discussion , telling your friend you know about his/her plans and therefore its time to take action and break-up. Be brave, you can cry if you feel like it but cut this agony short. The person who cheats on you and not telling you their plans is definitely cheating, is not worth your while. You need to go on a new way. It will take time I know, if you are a woman get help from your girl-friends, talk to them until you are blue in the face that is what friends are for. Read, work, go on long walks. One day you suddenly will notice you do not think about him every minute, every hour, but just once a day and slowly less and less. One day you will meet a new person who will be much better for you, trust me.
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