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LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING , I LIVED WITH A MAN 12 YEARS THAT BEAT ME FOR BEING 5 MIN LATE COMING HOME FROM WORK, BEAT ME FOR ANY REASON AND ALL THE WHILE I HAD 2 CHILDREN THAT SAW ALL OF THIS. THIS MAN PUT CIGARETTES OUT ON ME STABBED ME , CHOKED ME UNCONSCIOUS. YET I LOVED HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. WHY, BECAUSE HE CONDITIONED ME AND CONTROLLED ME, AND AFTER ALL THE HORRIBLE NAMES AND BEATINGS," HE LOVED ME SO MUCH AND COULD NOT LIVE WITHOUT ME" THIS IS WHAT IS CALLED THE HONEYMOON PERIOD BETWEEN EACH BEATINGS. GET OUT NOW. TAKE THE BABY AND RUN. GET LEGAL PROTECTION, THIS MAN IS DANGEROUS AND CAPABLE OF KILLING YOU AND YOUR CHILD. MORE WOMAN DIE AT THE HANDS OF THE MAN THAT "LOVES " THEM THEN ANY OTHER. GO TO A SHELTER, DON'T LET HIM KNOW WHERE YOU ARE AT. GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON. BUT BE CAREFUL YOU DON'T FALL FOR ANOTHER JUST LIKE HIM. GIVE YOURSELF AT LEAST 2 YEARS FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILD, NO MAN. WOMAN TEND TO PICK PATTERN MEN, THIS GIVES YOUR MIND TIME TO REGROUP . GOOD LUCK, PLEASE BE VERY VERY CAREFUL. OH BY THE WAY IT TOOK 5 YEARS OF COUNSELING TO HELP MY CHILDREN. DO YOU WANT THAT FOR YOUR CHILD? THIS MAN DOES NOT LOVE YOU. NOBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO INFLICT HARM TO ANOTHER
get yourself to a womans shelter =this man is dangerous
Sweetie no man should ever hit a woman, you need to get out of this relationship, and he needs a anger program.
He will hit you again I promise but it will be much worse the next time, no excuses.
He has more then just the anger problem, if you love him get him so mental health right away.
women's shelter now honey
to me it sounds like he is abusive. my best advice to you would be to get out of the relationship, for your sake, and even more for the baby's sake. you may love him, but this is the best thing that you can do for all three of you. anger and violence escalate so i would hate for something even worse than him hitting you to happen!
good luck!!
It is NEVER right for a man to hit a woman. It doesn't matter the circumstances either. If he really feels like the world would be better without him and he has an anger problem, then those are some red flags. You seem to really love this man and i know it would be hard leaving him but it might be something you have to do temporarily until he can get things figured out. Talk to him, tell him you love him and that you're concerned. Ask him what you can do to help him and maybe suggest some sort of counseling. You may love him with all your heart, but you also have to consider the safety of your baby and you. he sounds abusive, if he isnt' now, he will be eventually. the fact that he gets angry easily, hits you over little things, and he wants to die, makes him VERY unpredictable. You don't want to have to live on your knees or with the fear that he may do something at any moment.
this is really wrong you need to tell somebody asap(call police or family or a friend) and leave and take the baby with you and he needs to get some help with his problems ...i hope your okay!
if you really love him then you will do the right thing..thats what love is about you need to really get out ..if your alone right now call a friend or family memeber and tell them and pack up quickly and get out now seriously it may get worse quick than you think
Get out of this relationship. Go to a shelter or move in with family or a friend. He will only get worse. Protect your baby & yourself. He will survive.
No man has the right to lay a hand on a woman in anger! Too, those who speak of dying are only speaking, they rarely act upon the thoughts; do NOT let him fill you with guilt this way! The baby needs attention, regardless of what HE wants, the baby comes first! You would be better with your family. Don't let him tell you he won't hit you again, it is a blind promise; there will be something else in the future. Do NOT let him make you believe you deserve the abuse! He may say "well you did this, or you did that" it will never, ever be his fault; but, it IS his fault because he lets a little thing anger him so. Please, get yourself and the baby OUT of this situation. It seems to me he is jealous because of the baby and right now the baby needs you and attention, not him! DHS will look at it as abuse to the baby and remove it from your home if you do not take steps to prevent abuse to yourself. Please, please get to a women's shelter, they will help you!
Please honey, you need to get out of this sooner if not later. If he is like this with you he could be worse with your child. there is no man or women on earth that deserves this abuse, please get out while you can. I urge you to move quickly and don't look back. It is not going to get any better. He does not love you as much as you do if he has no problems talking to you this way or treating you this way. Please get out. take care and pray very hard about this.
You have mentioned anger problem so it has not happened first time? Have you ever considered to see a professional help? No one will ever tell you what exactly you should do but would help you to see options what you have. The decision is always yours. Good Luck.
Get your baby and yourself out of this abusive ,controlling enviorment. NO it's never OK to hit anyone for any reason,ever.This is ALL a manipulation for his control over you.GET OUT NOW! This fool will hurt you or the baby,it's only a matter of time. Read over what you just wrote, does that sound in any way, normal or sane ? He's so jealous & petty that he won't let you take care of HIS BABY ! Get somewhere safe,and let him sort out his problems. He's sick,get out! He won't hurt himself,thats a another way to manipulate & control you. Call 911 if he needs help,take care of this baby & yourself first. These answers are ALL SERIOUS, most of us know of what we speak.Some have lived this nightmare,some see,and council abused & battered women everyday,some like me see the blood & gunshot wounds their men inflict. SW RNP
My parents tought me to never let a man hit me NO a man or women does not have the right to hit u honey. No matter what if he really loves u then he would not hit u not even once. I think u need to tell him to stop or ur leaving or if ur scared to say it then I would leave when he was at work with my baby. Also if u love him don't let him hurt u like that best wishes no man should never hit a women. And a women should never hit a man
no women should be treated this way at all! you should leave before you or your baby gets hurt. you can call your doctor and set up an appt and tell him whats happening and he will help you get help. but get out no cuz its not going to end until you leave and get yourself and your baby into a safe place
Been there, done that...LEAVE HIM. You don't deserve that from ANYONE. Learn to have some respect for yourself. Most men that abuse women will always tell you how much they love you, can't live without you, I will never do that again, on and on.BLAH, BLAH, BLAH Leave and don't ever look back. Please call the domestic hot-line for some help and go NO where but forward in your life. If you don't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of the baby? Please, leave him for the sake of yourself and child.
A MALE who hits a woman is no MAN. GET OUT! Turn him in to the cops. How can you love someone who beats you? One day he'll hit you (or the baby...don't say he won't) and you will wind up in the hospital...or morgue.
Sweetie dont u ever let a man lay his hands on u. You need to take your child and run to a safe place but think it out first. Try visiting a police station but make it seem like it is you frind not you. Don't rush this because if you do this the wrong way you can have some trouble.If u dnt stick up 4 ur self then he will continue to take advantage of u. r u sure u love him or r u scared? pray
I know that this must be a hard situation for you to be in. I think you should take your child and move out. You can still speak to him if you feel you need to but its important to remove yourself and your child from the house as he is a danger to both of you.
Your man is going throught something mentally. He is abusive. It will get worse before it gets better. He feels bad about himself so he's trying to control you. Abusive men go through a cycle where they abuse and apologize as he did.
Help him, help your child and help yourself. Leave the house - live with your family...maybe once he starts treatment you can move back with him.
I would have to say, in spite of everything you're feeling - you have to consider the SAFETY of yourself and your child. Find a safe place to go & leave. If you truly love him as much as you say, it's the best thing you can do. If he wants you back - he gets help.
Be sure to take anything of value, you may not be going back any time soon. And, secure your finances. If you don't have your own checking & savings, open them now & deposit your money in those accounts.
Lastly, talk to the police or a social services counselor. There is a good chance your leaving may trigger more negative behavior on his part. You need to get an official record of what's going on.
I know it seems harsh. But, can you honestly say you can stay in this situation forever? Do you honestly see him trying to change? As a parent you now have a responsibility to your child and that means taking care of yourself & your baby.
Do the right thing. Get out. Get help for yourself, your baby and your man.
Good Luck!
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