He put my life in danger... Help me please!!?
Question:
Iv been with him for 2 years and his never done anything like that before.
He put my life and his life at danger.
His my frist true love. I lost my virginity to him.
If he loves me, he wouldnt of done that? Was that the ADD taking over? Was that the real him? Im so scared. Iv never been so scared in my life.
I havent talked to him since then.
I dont think i can ever look at him the same after last night.
I have given him myself mentally and physically.
Should i try working it out with him or leave him he did put my life at risk?
im so confused.
Answers:
I'm an adult with ADD. ADD doesn't make you do stupid things like that. He knows the difference between right and wrong. He just made a stupid decision, which could have killed you both. I had a boyfriend do that to me once, but he also let go of the steering wheel. I screamed and screamed. It was so horrifying. I still relive that, and it was 13 years ago. I would be done with him after that. He apparently doesn't have any respect for life. Another drivining incident I was in with the same guy,got us pulled over. The cop told me that I needed to carry my id even if I wasn't driving so they could identify my body when he wrecked and killed me.That should have been my first clue.
i don't know how to answer you.
But if i were you, i will just pray and wait.
Sometimes human is so weak that there is nothing can be done.
So why trying to solve something that you can never solve it?
Try let Him do the work.
Maybe you can see the difference.
Take care.
Get the books "When Hope Can Kill" (forgot author's name) and "Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft and read them thoroughly front to back.
Then make a decision about what kind a man your boyfriend is and what you need to do about it. Then stick to your guns and take care of yourself.
His behavior was very controlling and manipulative. He may even have been erroneously diagnosed with ADD. There are several personality disorders which are nearly identical in symptoms to ADD. One is called OCPD or Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder, (not to be confused with OCD). OCPD is a flaw in the personality.
For more information about OCPD go to the following web site:
sympathy and understanding is good but you can't have those without life. don't think just your or his life in particular. think of what he did as putting two lives in danger. if this is a one time incident then let it go. if you feel it might happen again, by all means do a person a favor by getting yourself out of it. true love and first love is important but can you do that at the expense of a life? how would it affect other loved ones like your parents? it's a decision you have to make if you think he'll do it again and if you choose to stay with him after that
Didn't you just ask a question about masterbating?
LMAO! If I had a girlfriend like you I wouldn't bother taking my meds either. Maybe if you were more interesting you'd be able to keep his attention.
So, here's a thought -- try getting OFF YouQA.com and giving up some more of your dried out p*ssy. Or better yet, move on, get like 30 cats and let them soak your carpet in pee.
If he's been a good boyfriend up until this point, you need to have a serious conversation with him when he's taken his medication and is focused. You must tell him that he scared you and you don't appreciate that, etc.
I'm a teacher and have worked with children, teenagers and others with ADD and I have a cousin and a friend with the disorder. Sometimes they'll do crazy stuff like that, so they have to have clearly set boundaries.
My ex-boyfriend came from an extremely physically and emotionally abusive household, but never used that as an excuse to mistreat me. Your boyfriend cannot use his ADD as an excuse to mistreat you.
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