Is it bad to be like 13 and still a virgin?
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Sweetie,
You say "virgin" like it's a bad thing. You are only given your virginity ONCE-- once, in your whole life. Imagine how special something would have to be to only have it ONCE. You get a cake and a birthday every year, you get new clothes for school every fall, you even occasionally get baby siblings or cousins.
Your virginity is something you ought to treasure. The longer you hold onto it, the better off you are. Your friend at school who is pregnant has given away something she can never get back, and that is something that will change the course of her life forever, if she can carry the baby to term (not to scare you, but a lot of times when a girl gets pregnant that young, the baby is premature or stillborn)
So, to answer your question: you hold onto your innocence as long as you can. If you can take it all the way through middle school, you should be proud. If you can take it all the way through high school, which is even harder, you should be even prouder. And if you can manage to get through college and still have your virginity, then you will have given whoever you marry THE GREATEST gift that anyone can give him: the idea that he is SO special, you saved it JUST FOR HIM.
I know how cute boys can be, and how crazy about them we girls can get ~ but trust me, if you let one of them talk you into giving away your virginity, when the guy who's so wonderful that you never even realized that men could be made so perfectly comes along, you are going to want to be able to say to him, "I've waited for you" and be able to prove it.
noooo its not bad at all. wait till you are married! its the only smart thing to do. stand your ground when everyone else is giving in!
they are dumb. a 13 year old boy is not gonna be good. it is not gonna be a fun experience. at least wait til high school. who really wants to be pregnant at thirteen?
Wo...that is messed up if you want a good life i don't think you should do it when your that young ...thats my advice...
Go do whatever you want like I m not your father.im kinda of like a friend
go see a shrink
Please let this be a joke. Please let this be a joke. Please let this be a joke.
NO!!
no thats really NOT NORMAL save yourself for your 1st true love not some random skater boy
Unless you are competing for some sort of white trash award - no it's not bad. It's good.
It's not bad at all. In fact it's a GOOD thing! You should wait until marriage to have sex. You will avoid SO MANY complications that way (including pregnancy, of course) and it's just the RIGHT thing to do. I think everyone know this deep down inside. Wait. Don't worry about what other people in your school are doing. Be better.
Well it sounds like your school is full of nasty girls. Where I come from those girls would be really looked down on and you should have your virginity until at least 16 but in reality you should keep it until marriage. Virginity is something that can only be given away once and you need to make sure you are mature and with the right guy. 13 is way too young.
Ummm... Hello it's a good thing to still be a virgin especially at that age! These people at your school are dirty sluts and are going to regret their choices in life, especially the pregnant one! Be proud that you are a virgin, really it is a thing to cherish!
No, it is not bad. A 13 year old has no business having sex. You are just a kid. Have fun, play, study, please don't have sex.
No it's not bad at all! You will be more respected as you get older if you hold out!! Please, all men/boys are the same, out for one thing. Don't give it up!
Good Luck<3
WHAT!
of course it's bad for a 13 year old to be a virgin every 13 year old should be a virgin and I feel bad for the girl who's pregnant already she's not ready for a baby and I'm sure their will be promblems with the baby too. No offense but I wouldn't want to be in your school.
Ummmmm hello are you stupid? It's not bad to be a virgin and be even 25! You shouldn't do it until you're ready.and maybe not even then. I'm 13 too...and I can't even think about that kind of stuff yet. And I'm not like a sissy either....
no not bad at all that is great your too young your only 13 you have your whole life ahead of you having sex can lead to kids and diesese you dont need either let me tell you im 31 with 2 kids married and it is still hard mentaly to do it all so please stay a virgin for about 6 more years
NO, it is totally NOT bad for you to be a virgin.
Honey, whenever you're ready it will be time for you. Don't compare yourself to the people at school and think there's something wrong with you.
Sex is a very adult thing. If you plan to have sex, you have to be ready for the fact that you could get pregnant, even if you use protection. If you aren't ready to have a kid, and really can't accept that possibility, you should not be having sex.
You're still a kid (I don't mean that as an insult) and you have a LOT of growing and maturing left. Don't try to grow up too fast hon. Sex doesn't make you more mature or more adult.
When you're ready, make sure you really want to have sex and you aren't just doing it because "everyone else is." It's your body. Also, make sure you use protection!!
You would worry about sex at 13. You have to much in your life to look ahead to than if you should have had sex yet. Your not old enough to take on the responsibility to have sex because there are allot on consequences of it like that girl that got pregnant. Just keep a good head on your shoulders and its OK to be a virgin till you get married when ever that might be. It should be special and with someone you love not random.
NO. It is bad to not be a virgin when you are 13. There is no reason to have sex when you are 13.
no its not bad..your 13 do you really want to risk getting pregnant and somewhat ruining your life because you had sex when you were to young...its better to wait for when its truley right than doing it cause everyone elsa is doing it.
Believe me the people at your school are going to regret it later. You are too young to understand the full meaning of sex. A lot of my friends and I lost our virginity around 16-18 and some of my friends are still virgins at 21! Dont fall into peer pressure,. If you cant spell the word "pregnet" I would say wait until you are more knowledgeable about sex.
Please don't tell me you want to be like the 13 yr old pregnant girl!
I'm going to be honest. Whoever you lose your virginity to will be part of your life forever (even if they are only there as part of your memory) so you're much better off saving yourself for someone who truly matters.
And 13 is still very young to be having sex so you are not "behind" by any means. Just don't feel you should do this because others are doing it. It is a very personal thing and your motivations must be your own.
Really, you shouldn't want to have those regrets when you're married to the right person. Wouldn't you wish you could have saved it for the perfect person? Or have put out before you could drive just to catch up? If a guy wants you to put out at the age, he's a total scumbag. So, seriously, don't give it to him. Wait until you find someone you wanna spend the rest of your life with.
absolutely not!!! Having sex before you are married is considered a sin to God. When you have sex with someone you become 1 and then if you break up you lose some of yourself, and if you continue to have sex with many other people you keep losing parts of yourself until you are just a mix of baggage and sadness. People were not meant to have sex with more than one person- that is why there are all those sexually transmitted diseases, our bodies cannot handle it. Trust me- you are worth so much more than a teenage fad, save yourself for the right one, and save yourself a bunch of trouble in the process.
honestly, i would respect you more if you were a virgin
Sweety you need to get a clue... don't you know that people make things up to make them seem more important or cool than they really are. Of course it isn't bad to be 13 and a virgin. Listen sex is not the B end all. Sex is more than the act it's self. When you have sex with someone it is a deep connection with your soul even if you don't feel it at the time. I think that is very sad that a baby is having a baby. That girl has lost her childhood and youth. Just because you can have sex doesn't make you a mature adult. Wait and enjoy your life. Experiencing lots of different things and looking for the man who you connect with and want to share your dreams with.
Nooo it's not bad at all. What is bad is to be 13 and NOT a virgin, in my opinion. Be smart, wait until marriage to have sex and don't give in to peer pressure, no matter how hard it is, no matter if it means losing some friends over. Don't risk your health by doing something like that. Don't become one of them.
Not bad... it is your choice.
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