Orgasm Troubles.. please help?

Question:

I've been sexually active for almost a year now and I havn't had an orgrasm a single time. Even before I become sexually active I couldn't have one by masturbation either. I can get myself to feel very good and sometimes I think I might be about to have one but then I never do.. It isn't my man, he's perfect in bed, so I know it must be me. Someone mentioned that stress can cause you to not have them and I'm usually stressed constantly.. But, does anyone have any masturbation/sex tips that could help me orgasm?

Thanks~
-Kari

Answers:
Clitoris stimulation is usually the best. a womans orgasm is not achieved by just deep penetration, a variety of things contribute. a long period of foreplay may be what you need. most young lovers think only of themselves and don't take the time to rev up their woman. do you leave the lights on or off ? try the other. maybe a risky location would excite you. Like your moms bed or the dinning room table.Or outdoors . Try a couple of beers or a vallium if you can get one . Don't be ashamed of your actions. I hope you have the best and many. good luck . git er done

It took me a really long time to get my first orgasm as well. I don't know about your body personally, butI finally just sat down one day and said I'm not getting up untill I orgasm. It actually might have taken me like two hours, so maybe you should just sit down and resolute yourself to have one. Don't try and rush it. If not I'd contact my doctor and find out a little more about it.

stress can definately be an issue and the fact that you are worried about it is stressful.do you talk to your man in bed? might be helpful.masturbation is the only sure fire way to find out what YOU enjoy and need so take a little trip to the toy store and have some fun.

If you're not up for the adult toy store - many Health food stores/drug stores sell generic massagers

Good luck!

I was in the same boat as you until I started using a viberator. I have found I can have AMAZING orgasms using my viberator to stimulate my clitoris. I have a couple now (trying different ones out) and I have found my favorite to be one that tapers to a smaller, bent tip at the end...that little rounded point really directs the vibrations where you want it. It took me a while to "let myself go" but I stuck with it, and it paid off grandly in a few tries.

I will admit I was pretty shy about it all at first. I didn't share my new found orgasm with my partner for a couple months...but once I did we were able to mix it into our love making.

Anyway, find a viberator that costs about $20 bucks that is waterproof and has adjustable speeds. Try it out, and go from there. :)

Orgasm Troubles.. please help?

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