What's the best position for a girl to be in her first time? Top or bottom?

Question:

My b/f and I were considering having sex. And he wants me to be on top so I can go as fast or as slow as I wanna go, but I wanna be on the bottom and have him be slow and easy. I really don't know how to ride a guy anyways. I've seen it in porns and I think I know how you have to be positioned. And I tried that w/ and w/o a pillow and it hurts my legs and I can't really go up and down. I've seen people go back and forth too which would be easier. My hymen's already torn/stretched out so I don't have to worry about that, but I do have to worry about the tightness as soon as you go in. Which hurts a little w/ 2 fingers so I'm guessing I'll be in mild pain. If we even do it 'cause my muscles will probably tighten up and he won't be able to get it in because I want to, but he's leaving for college sometime this month. And he'll probably get it from one of them college girls so I kind of feel like I'm being used.

Answers:
bottom... def bottom...
just say. "if you're ontop, I'll tell you if I want it faster or slower..."
aand just have him strt off slow in the first place...
and if you don't say anything, then he's doing fine

Bottom.

dont have sex with him then...

take a few deep breaths and relax. you are not ready to do anything yet. do not allow him to pressure you with the old but i love you stuff either. if he is telling you he will be with someone anyhow then let it be so. the guy is playing you. be more in touch with yourself on this issue. do not be rushed by anyone. when it is right for you it will just be so.

your being used. couples have sex to bring them closer and pleasure each other. if your about to break up, you dont start having sex. he probably just wants to practice on you before he starts hittin the college girls. no offense. but dont do it.

I would reccomend being on bottom in the traditional "military style". But I would not do it with this guy. He's OBVIOUSLY using you, and I wouldn't give him what he wants. I'd make him wait. That's the one true test of a relationship. If the guy is willing to wait for you, then he's true blue through and through. It's your life and your virginity, but please don't make the same mistake that tons of other girls have made. Learn from stories and advice. And hey, think of it this way, if he waits for you, then he waits for you, and you're a whole lot happier knowing that he's the one, and if he doesn't want to, then you'll have the relief of keeping your virginity, which some awesome loving guy will love you to give him some day, and you'll have lost...what?...another useless wanker.

Good Luck, and remember, NO means NO, do not let him pressure you into anything you don't want. YOU hold the key to his pleasure, and he can't have it until you say so.

The advantage of being on the top is that u r in control of the situation. Do not go what the porns show. If u r well lubricated either naturally or artificially, u will not feel much pain.

dont let him pressure you into this! he's not worth you losing your virginity to because evidently he's only after one thing and isn't taking your feelings into consideration. yes you are being used. if you sleep with him he will probably still sleep with other college girls or w/e. please don't do this, theres more worthwhile guys out there. Think about it, is this something your going to regret later on? i think so.

be careful.

young lady it sounds like he is just wanting to get into your pants before he goes to college , unless you want to have sex with this guy don't let him pressure you into doing something you don't want to happen.

he's the worst thing that could happen to your "first time"... the slime bag is trying to manipulate you and any male who does that do a girl is not human inside... stupid girls fall for this sort of crap everyday and bring bad names to all girls

Do NOT have sex with him. He sounds like a jerk. And if you feel used now, you will only feel worse afterward. You do not want to lose your virginity to someone who has pressured you/manipulated you into it, and who does not seem to care about you. For him, this is just about the physical aspect of sex it seems, since he says he'll just get it somewhere else if not from you. Sex is not just physical - and it won't be just physical for you. You should wait to have sex with someone with whom you are in a loving committed relationship and who is happy to wait until YOU are ready (I'd say marriage ...)

bottom but if u dont fell ready dont do it think about the consequenses cuz just yesterday I was answering a pregant 13 year old's question aand she had sex with the guy because he was cute.Now she cant tell her parents

Honey, get away from that boy. You are young enough and he is old enough that what he is doing is called coercion. It means he is in a position of power and is trying to manipulate you into consenting to having sex with him. He isn't doing it because he loves you. He is playing with your emotions and he is enjoying playing out a rather cruel mental abuse against you. You are under the age of consent, so whether you say yes or not, if you have sex with him, it is still considered rape by the courts of law.

Open up to your mom. She needs to know what is happening to you and you need to be a kid for just a little while longer and cry on her shoulder. This boy is right in the middle of the act of breaking your heart for the first time, and your momma needs to know.

What's the best position for a girl to be in her first time? Top or bottom?

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