Personal question about recent Episiotomy?


Question:
First off this is a really personal question and I would appreciate only serious answers-Thanks in advance! I gave birth to my daughter on May 15th, during labor my midwife gave me an episiotomy to prevent worse tearing. I resumed having sex with my boyfriend after the normal 6 week postpartum period and its been horrible! The area where I had the episiotomy stitches gets very sore and tender during, and especially after, intercourse. I can feel the scar tissue and assume that its the real culprit. Even worse, I've found that ever since I had the procedure I get air trapped inside of me so easily, mostly when I'm on top during sex. Its extremely annoying and embarrassing and tends to limit our position choices. I'm only 20 years old and don't want my sex life ruined forever just because I needed the episiotomy to successfully give birth. Any other ladies out there with this type of experience after an episiotomy? How long does this truly take to heal, Am I just rushing things? Help!!

Answers:
I'm sorry you are suffering because of the episiotomy. Most midwives only do it when it is completely necessary. The way you heal varies from person to person. YOU HAVE NOT RUSHED THINGS at all. Your scar is probably a little over-scarred and hence is painful. Some people take longer to heal than others..if you had an infection around it at the time of healing this can be the result. With time everything will get better! So don't be discouraged! You may need a second repair to cut out the scar and give you a better one so you would need to see your gynaecologist who would assess things. It's better to wait at least 6 months to see how everything is and whether the scar is still troublesome.
Air getting into the vagina occurs because your vagina has expanded with child birth and there is no tight seal during intercourse. There is not much you can do ...things will probably get better as things return to normal. Obviously your vagina opening may be a little bigger now. Try pelvic floor exercises...see a proper physiotherapist to get best results!
S o overall GIVE IT TIME AND DON'T WORRY!
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Doctor, pronto!! Sex should no longer hurt. And for future reference, it's better to let it tear naturally, it will heal faster. Your body knows what it's doing. Refuse the episiotomy next time. : )
Everyone is different and maybe your body needs a few more weeks to heal. With my last baby I had an episiotomy and I was not ready to have sex after 6 weeks. It took me almost 3 months to completely heal to where I had no discomfort. I had surgery on another part of my body and the doctor told me to give it at least 6 months to heal, so give your body time to heal. Have you tried a lubricant during sex to help with the friction?

As far as the air goes, don't worry about it. As my husband says," It's natural".
I had a very nasty episiotomy with my first child. Surprisingly, though, I didn't even tear a little with my second. My first child is almost four, and every once in a while I still get a little discomfort where the scar tissue is. I wouldn't say it's painful, just different. As time goes on, it'll soften and get more flexible. Meanwhile, get creative, and only do what is comfortable.
im with u on this one..i am 22 and i delievered my son on may 17.. and my husband and i waited to have sex till 8 weeks after because i was so scared being i was stitched down there..and boy did i feel him hitting the scar tissue..its painful and umcomfortable..and i know all about the air it is embarassing even though my husband says its ok..to me its not. but my ob did say it can take up to 6 months to heal right.. and your not rushing things.. the begining healing process is done..its just now its gonna take a while to readjust to all the things u did before..good luck and congrats..
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