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I think this is a common fantasy for a lot of guys, but I don't really believe it's acceptable to be acted on. You don't seem to like the idea very much, and think about it: would you really be able to enjoy yourself? I know I wouldn't. That's just me though. I'd have a problem sharing my boyfriend with another woman in that way. I would just feel very disrespected. These kinds of things can deteriorate a relationship very easily by causing jealousy and a lack of trust. If it's something you want to try and you are confident your relationship is strong enough, then go for it, but if you have any doubt in your mind then DON'T feel pressured to do so and don't feel bad about it. If he keeps on pushing you to do this even after you say "no" and explain your feelings on it, seriously reconsider your relationship. There are other ways to spice up your sex life WITHOUT another woman.
I would say 'no'. I mean, do you really want him to eff another girl? Even with you? Try to spice up your sex in other ways...But I mean, whatever floats your boat, I guess...but personally, threesomes are out in my book...and I was pretty POed when my ex suggested it just as a joke.. (we didn't break up over that, btw...he was just a complete jerk...)
u don't sound like your into it.
Give him a ultimatum,to clean up or shift out.
Coz unless ur ok with it,it's disrespectful to u.
i have, and it is something i choose to not do again. for some, it can be an exciting experience. it really is something that everyone feels differently about.
sorry that hasn't happened to me, I have been married for 6 years and I know I wouldn't be able to share my hubby
I have not had a threesome, but my husband and I are interested in having one with another woman. I was actually the one that talked him into the whole idea. I'd say you need to set some rules and have mutual understandings before even trying to find someone to have a threesome with. What's allowed and what's not okay? Will he use a condom with her or not? Things like that.
Make sure you keep communication open before, during and after the fact, so that nothing will happen that you might regret.
If you don't feel comfortable with it or you know that you don't like the idea, there is your answer.
It's probably a big fantasy for your bf to have 2 women but if you don't want to and he loves you than it can stay a fantasy.
Hope this helps..
edit: Christine that is a good thoughtful answer for if someone is curious. I like it!
thats not fair. your bf is insane,he doesnt love you anymore im telling you.all that he want is his lust to be fulfilled and his libido to be high.dont do it.if you did then its amistake dont do it again.im telling you it will ruin the relationship so badly.confront him ask him if he really loves you direct to the point with the topic being brougth up.hope to enlighten your mind.
Everyone's different but me personally, I wouldn't want my hubby to ask something like that of me - if he was serious, I'd say there's the door, you can go find 2 new girls to have a threesome with! If your fiance is really serious about it then I would reconsider your relationship if it's REALLY NOT what you want.
All the best, I hope it all works out for you! :)
You say your sex life is great? for whom? If it was great why is another person suggested to join in. Get rid of this a -hole! Just be thankful this happened before you got married. You will find a man that loves you for you and doesn't need another tramp in the mix!
Break up with this loser and certainly do NOT marry him.
Any guy that asks for a threesome is asking for an open permission to cheat (which he would be doing with you there).
Threesomes ruin relationships. Don't get into that situation.
Dump him and find someone who REALLY loves you.
I have , and it doesnt work out =( Trust me its not all that its cracked up to be . I like one on one and so should he ...if he keeps hounding you after you tell him f*** NO , tell him to hit the bricks!
It causes lots of problems. It's one thing to have it be a fantasy, but when it becomes reality.that's trouble.
oh geez lol. Yeah I'v gotten that question before from my boyfriend. I didn't flip my lid or anything I just laughed and said maybe...but obviously it never ended up happening. But you never know it might be fun!
I don't think you deserve that.
You should fill all of his needs, and he should fill all of yours.
You should have him all to yourself, and if that's not enough for him, then I think you should let him go, and find someone to be All yours.
I'm sure you deserve better. =)
You are getting allot of knee-jerk answers here based on people's personal jealousies and fears, and not a whole lot of objective information regarding your question.
My wife and I have done both FMF and MFM threesomes and even moresomes, and without a doubt our relationship is even stronger today than it was four years ago when we started swinging. It was really good then and it just got better as we took sex away as the reason we were a couple and gave it its proper place amongst all the other reasons we are married to each other and not others.
If you are a strong couple, who is secure in yourselves, in each other, and in your relationship, and you both have a group sex fantasy, than you may be cut-out for swinging (and yes, a threesome is technically swinging). If the idea of watching your boyfriend (or his of you) knocking the socks off another woman the way he does you is a turn-on (meaning you have voyeuristic tendencies), and his ideas about you knocking some guys socks off like you do his is a turn-on... than you are the right type of couple to do this and have a great time at it with no ill effects to your relationship. And you may find, like so many others that it actually strengthens it.
If that is not you two, than this fantasy might be better left a fantasy.
For some really good, objective information, check-out The Swingers Board forums. There you'll hear both the good and bad from those just thinking about it to veteran swingers. You'll get the straight poop from them.
OK, here's your problem in a nut shell: you said yes already. See, when you said yes, you put yourself in the position of saying, "I'm ready." Now you're trying to say, "I'm not ready." It would be the same as if if your fiance were to take back your engagement. Now, if you had said no when he first asked, and then thought about it and decided it could be worth trying, you wouldn't have a problem. But if you take it back at this point, how is he ever going to know if you are going to take something back in the future? And are you starting a policy where it's okay to take things back? If you take this back, how can you complain when he takes back, for example, wanting you to have your own job when you have kids, or a girls' night out. Tread lightly, and in the future, think things through a little better before you agree to them.
Now, on to the heart of the question, yes, my wife and I have had several threesomes with other girls. They all went extreemly well, because we communicated what we wanted out of it all. Which may be an out for you. Talk to him about limits. One reasonable limit my wife set once (with a particular girl, but it works if you set it as a general rule as well) was no penetration. I could do anything to either of them, either of them could do anything to me, so long as I wasn't in anyone. It was a fun change for me, but for some guys, it's a deal breaker.
And, as above, it's easy to reset the rules in the middle if you change your mind. Consider: you say, "No penetration: no blowjobs, no anal" and he agrees, and you find a girl, and all goes well, and you are half way through and whisper to him, "I changed my mind... go for it!" and make him extatic. Or it's going okay and you just let things stay as they are, and he leaves knowing he's one of the lucky few whose wife is willing to do that much. Now consider the opposite arangement, where you find a girl, and go at it no holds barred, and start to get uncomfortable with her or him or both, and ask him to please show some restraint. What in the world is that supposed to mean? And he's already too drunk on his endorphins; to think straight. Now you've got to end the whole thing, and he resents you.
Remember it's easier to loosen the rules later than it is to tighten them later.
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