Why are guys so obsessed with going 'down there'??
Question:
i want to let him but i cant seem to relax, im more of a giver than a taker and i just feel uncomfortable and greedy when he tries to pleasure me lol
what can i do or say to him next time? i dont want to keep saying no to him but how can i feel more comfortable?
Answers:
My guess is that your boyfriend is upset because he feels as though you're not giving yourself to him completely. He may want to be the 'giver' for once and give back to you!
Porn films and such like have made giving head (both sexes) seem sleazy and dirty, but it's really not. It's a perfectly natural act of giving and receiving pleasure. It depends though, on how comfortable you are with him. You might want to explain (not during sex) that you're not very comfortable with him going down still, but that this might change as you get more comfortable and more intimate with each other. Don't feel pressured into it, but just know that there is nothing to be embarassed or feel awkward about, although it is perfectly understandable for you to feel this way. It's a really wonderful new sensation though, really different (and some have said, better than penetrative sex) and you have this to look forward to when you feel ready! ;)
P.S. if you're unsure of what to do whilst he's 'downstairs', running your hands through his hair is a good start ;)
nice guys like to finish last girl
regards x kitti x
Down where, the pub?
So! This has nothing to do with us guys and our obsessions, has it? This is about you and your hang-ups.
I had exactly the same problem - I had to keep saying no. I could so KICK myself .
personally I'd say only on a Saturday night and have a shot of Jack Daniels before hand. Maybe you'd be really happy if you could just relax.
I can tell you that there are an awful lot of guys who aren't obsessed at all. Sob.
Get loaded!
If he doesnt respect that you are not comfortable with it, dump him! you shouldnt have to do anything you dont want to.
If you want to try feeling more comfortable just relax a bit and he will be getting just as much out of it as you!
69? give and take!!
Really I don't think it's that he has the problem, no offense. I think YOU need to work on feeling more comfortable. I would get the book the art of orgasm and really work on becoming more comfortable with your own body, etc.
Oral sex with someone you love and trust can be fabulous, I think it's great that he wants to pleasure you. There are lots of women who wish they had a guy like that. She comes first is a great book for that.
One of the keys is to just stop thinking and enjoying the pleasure of sex, stop worrying.
I think it is nice having a bf like him. Men get pleasure when receiving it and, as I feel, they wish to reciprocate. Most will proly not like the idea. But some, like me, feel that it will give a lot of pleasure to their partners and want to give it. Try to analyze, what makes you uncomfortable about it. The anatomy is same. The secretions? Smell? Why you feel insecure is the question. You may discuss it at length instead of just saying no when he wants to give it.
Good luck!
it sounds like you have a fella like mine! you lucky girl! lol mine gets a great big kick out of going down. work out what exactly it is that your not comfortable with. do you think you smell down there? is it the thought of him "looking" at you? he seems bothered because he just wants to make you feel good and he gets just as much out of it as you would. anyway, work out what it is and then you can work it out. i'e. if its the smell thing, even tho i'm pretty sure you dont or he wouldnt want to do it anyway, have a shower or something, if its a looking at you thing, do it in the dark. or just let him and close your eyes. the more you do it the more comfortable you'll get. your not being selfish by wanting to enjoy yourself. and at least you dont have a selfish lover. you get the picture. if all else fails just tell him its not him, you just dont get anything out of it. some women dont.
stop washing your honey pot immediatelly..so will he !! this is the only solution i see.
your either uncomfortable with your body or your boyfriend
Why are you complaining luv! It's the best feeling in the world when he is down there!!!
Just relax and enjoy the ride, try different positions when he's down there, take some control as to how you want to be licked, experiment..
You lucky girl!
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