WTF? I moved to since I moved to Arkansas 11 years ago from California every lady I have been involved with...
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I think it goes back for centuries all throughout THE HILL COUNTRY OF THE EASTERN USA ( if YOU include Ark. as 'EASTERN'). It is usually in the poorest, most uneducated families and goes back to early times in the dirty grimey disease infested cities of Europe and came with these people to the highlands & backwoods of the Americas. That's not to say it doesn't happen in higher classes, but the incidence is much lower! How do we stop it -- through education & the access to report it and protect our children !
But it happens everywhere as you say. I don't think the word "popular" is the correct phraseology though! At least, I hope not !
I wasn't molested by a family member, my father was a WONDERFUL MAN whom I adore & will adore for the rest of my life. But the MILKMAN tried to rape me when I was just 11 3/4s years old & I felt so DIRTY & as if it was my fault (that I must've done something wrong)! I was brave enough to choke out between tears what had happened to me to my mom that evening, but I was so ASHAMED that I hid in the closet when the business' owner came over to talk to me about it! I didn't even know about sex at the time, but I knew something "wrong" had happened, altho my crying & the dog's barking scared him away before anything terrible happened !
There was no councilling in those days & my parents NEVER spoke of it again. I was left feeling DIRTY & ASHAMED. I believe it led to promiscuity in my mid-teens to my mid-thirty's or so ! I finally came to respect myself again after reading all the articles in modern magazines & books, but the damage done to me which caused me to think low of myself took it's toll on my son too, as he saw my promiscuity and was ashamed of me. We lived in a small town and what I did , he felt, reflected on him. And he has hated me for it for years!
I love him so desperately much and what that MILKMAN did over 40 years ago, also hurt my son very badly, very deeply and he has even taken his anger out on his children!
I feel these pediphiles and rapists should be castrated and/or worse depending on the case, because as you can see it ruin lives for generations !!!!!!!!!!
I desperately want to make things right with my son and to have him understand that I did the things I did with men because of the way I felt about myself and IT WASN'T MY FAULT ! But he hasn't made himself available to to me for a talk in over 20 years ! I haven't even seen him in 31/2 years. I desperately want his love, but I realize that will probably never happen. In the mean time he psycologically abuses his 3 children along with physical abuse and though they loved me dearly and I them, I believe he has now brainwashed them to hate me! And that is worse than death to me ! My heart aches constantly! And he has spread a HORRIBLE, DISCUSTING RUMOR about me throughout my spouse's family & he has made them believe it. If my belief in God didnt sustain me, I dont know what I may have done to myself thru all of this and it's been going on for the 18 years since he married.
sO, AS YOU CAN SEE THESE SICKOS effect more than just THE CHILD THEY RAPE and it goes on and on and on forever!
Your right. It is sick and is becoming popular. I am in australia and was abused by my mothers boyfriend and it has greatly impacted on my life now (Im 21) It is a downfall in society and is increasing rapidly. In Australia 100,000 people report abuse yearly.And that is the ones that come forward!!
I do not feel it is all the people in Arkansas, it's just the ones you socialize with. This happens in all of the US, you can't single out one state just b/c of where it is.just like they say in TN all the people there are hillbillies, which is not true. You need to make new friends and not believe what you here. Have they told you this because you are ignorant and will believe them?
I'm from Arkansas but have been to and lived in other places throughout my life. As a mental health professional working with teenagers, I'm fairly sure that this occurs everywhere to young women (and men too). I don't think it's so much a problem of geography as it is a problem of men still viewing females as property. Even though it's 2007, lots of men still devalue women and look at them only as sex objects.
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