Question about introducing toys to the bedroom?

Question:

My boyfriend and I were having some problems and so we weren't having sex as much so I decided instead of cheating and feeling frustrated I'll buy a vibrator anyway I haven't told him about it at all because he'd freak out but I think we'd have more fun how can I say something without him freaking out on me I have wanted to tell him but he thinks it's like cheating or something

Answers:
Well. If you don't tell him abou tit, and you're hiding it, it probably FEELS like it's cheating for you as well.

Honesty is the best policy.

He needs to know, and next time you have sex, you should thank him for how wonderful he makes you feel, and how "superior" or whatever he is to your toy that he's caused you to turn to when he's not providing you what you need.

Keep in mind... a lot of women (I want to say MOST) use them, and are comfortable about it. Even when their sex life is active/good/etc, they sometimes just need to release the anxiety without all the drama of being with a guy. They fit the bill.

Don't sweat it. If he decides to leave you, you STILL have your toy. If it doesnt bother him, maybe you can bring it to bed with you next time you and him have sex, and show him how it all works. :-)

When people know each other well enough to have sex together....they should know one another enough to be honest about sex toys. Try it.

Let him use them on you, then he'll be in charge! Use an anal plug too and then there will be the Tim Allen factor (lots of tools!) As long as you're not running to use them when he's gone he can't complain. (And you don't have to tell him about that either if you do.) PS: From personal experience - don't get one that really looks like a penis or is all veiny or something - first, it's gross. Second he will feel like you're cheating. Just get an anonymous looking plastic one.

They make toys for men too! Buy him one as well as one for yourself!!

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