Family issues?
Question:
she is about to marry this guy who has no clue she has them,
i mean she has told all of us but said not to tell him cause it really dosent matter now cause theve slept togather.
i personally think its wrong.
but i dont want to be the one to ruin her life.
she will hate me. but nobody else will say anything.
and herpes dont just go away!
and i for one would kill someone.
how do i even explin this to a guy i have only talked to like 3 times?
i mean thats a hard one "um dude your wife has herpes?"
or should i just not care?
Answers:
Ok...
You sound concerned and you should be. But the best person to talk to is your cousin not her husband. She will feel betrayed b/c she told you in confidence. You have to explain to her the best way for her to tell her husband. Honestly she will probably lose him if you tell him. So it's best that she explain to he husband how frightened she was b/c she didn't want to lose him. She has to know that it is fully his choice whether he wants to subject himself and he should also be tested. She has to be brave and she can find the courage with your help. I hope you can find the words to explain to her the seriousness so that she will be able to tell him. ASK PEOPLE IN THE FAMILY TO HELP YOU BY HAVING A MEETING WITH HER. There is strength in numbers. HELP HER! God bless
wow idk
i would tell
but if you dont just like drop hints like you guys should get tested lol
Either put yourself in his shoes and ask if you would want someone to tell you, or ask yourself if not telling is going to help them in the long run.
If you don't want to ruin her life do you really think her fiance is going to be understanding?
Could you send him an anonymous letter?
I second the anonymous letter idea.
I also think it's wrong for her to do that to someone she claims to love.
I think she's the one ruining her life, and your telling him wouldn't do any more damage than she's already done by keeping such an important secret from him.
If the anonymous letter won't work,
Pull him aside or somehow get ahold of him. Tell him there is something his fiancee has been keeping from him, and he should talk to her about her STD. Tell him to please keep his source confidential.
Thats really sad. She should have been woman enough to tell him a long time ago before they even slept together .. That is very messed up. Yeah you should def. tell him or like the other person said just hint around for them to get tested .. Thats a very hard situation you are in. But if he doesnt know now, He is really going to wonder later
Good Luck!
send an anonymous letter? to him
or anonymous email?
then she wont know which relative told on her
she deserves to be miserable if she would do that to the man shes supposed to love anyways
i say tell on the *****
More Questions & Answers...