Why is it so painful?
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See a doctor. Are you using lubrication? Have you ever had an orgasm?
Withdrawal is NOT effective. You could be allergic to condoms and spermicide.
For some, the first few times will make you feel sore, as it's been an unused muscle or even hurt, if you aren't properly lubericated, like the guy is in a hurry, doesn't arouse you and your body isn't ready.
Relaxing, foreplay helps, being fully aroused or better yet, you having an orgasm FIRST or using a lubricant like KY-Jelly or AstroGlide can help.
Have you gotten a pap done?
Something is not right. You need to schedule yourself an appt with a Gynocologist asap.
since it was your first time your cherry popped(hymen broke) thats why it hurt so bad, it only hurts like that your first time though.
Years ago, I experienced the same side effects with birth control pills so I chose a spermicide. Nine months later, I had a son, so I would NOT suggest that method.
Have you talked to your doctor? I know there are different hormone dosages with the pill. Maybe you just need a lower one.
WELL F ITS LIKE THAT YOU DO NEED TO SEE A DOCTOR AS WOMEN DO HAVE A CONDTION THATS BLOCKS THE VAGINA OR IT MAYBE AS SIMPLE AS YOU NEED TO USE A KY GEL ETC FOR LUBRICANTS
Sounds like you need lube and lots of patience. I recommend either a water or silicone based lube (KY Jelly isn't quite strong enough). If you aren't aroused at the time of penetration, it's likely going to hurt. Foreplay goes a long way to arousal for both male and female.
Condoms with spermicide can be effective - DEFINITELY use lube with them though. Withdrawal is NOT effective.
As far as the bleeding, you should see a gynocologist about that.
Sex should be a wonderful experience, not painful.
Something is wrong. Sex is pleasurable and it's supposed to be that way. There's only a very small amount of blood. I never even knew when my hymen was ruptured. No pain at all. You should not be bleeding and you should not be in pain. Sex is one of the most wonderful experiences on earth. You should be able to enjoy this beautiful experience fully.
See a doctor, get a female exam, have her/him explain the facts of life to you fully. Get on the Pill. Withdrawal is not at all reliable because he could have pre-ejaculate before orgasm. BTW you're supposed to have an orgasm too.
You shouldn't be in pain or bleeding for this long. Pain shouldn't last that long and bleeding shouldn't last for more than a day or so after your hymen was broken (though I have heard of some girls spotting for a few days longer). Go to your gynecologist.
The more methods of birth control you use, the better.
What you need to do is see your doctor and have the tissue cut so it doesn't keep tearing. Get on a good diet from the health food store. This will strengthen the muscles and increase the desire for your husband.
It is wonderful to hear of a couple that were will to wait for marriage.
My wife had the same problem and this is what we did.
a friend of mine has very painful sex also. Its due to her being dry down there. Her doctor actually told them to use vegtable oil. Its perfectly healhty bc its all organic and last longer then lubricans. I know it sounds weird, but now they try it and the pain has gone away..otherwise go see adr.
If you have had sex more than 10 times and it is still painful, then something isn't right. I use to think that sex was painful because I was still "tight." Then I was diagnosed with chlamydia and I know that painful intercourse is one of the symptoms. After I was treated for chlamydia and tried to have sex again. I went to the gyn and she said that I should have a sonogram done. A month later I find out I have a cyst on my left ovary that 6.7 x 4.2 cm big. I am going to have surgery on the 14th of August. Wish me luck!!
BTW. I wrote this all just to let you know that something is wrong when sex is always painful. Get checked out and good luck!!
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