I have never had an orgasm.is this normal in young women thats 26?
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you still may be traumatized by that experience and so that adds on to your muscle tensions when your being pleasured. you should relax! especially if you have a partner, have him help you relax by talking to you when he is doing things.
if you drink...doesn't matter if its moderate or heavy drinking, try to take a few shots of some sort of alcoholic drink and either do it to yourself or have someone else do it. it'll help you relax greatly and make it possible for you to reach orgasm =]
i think the real reason for you not being able to achieve it is that you think too much therefore your muscles are tense in that area and your brain isn't focused on the pleasure like it should be.
best of luck to you =]
I think counselling might help you, nothing u have done is abnormal or dirty just natural responses its a situation anyone could find themselves in.I have my own issues Im still dealing with different than yours but thats life.
I can relate to your situation. While I was younger, I walked in on my father's best friend and his lady friend having sex. I tried to please myself once shortly after wards and it worked. I did not have sex until I was 18 years old. When I got into my first real sexual relationship, I never had an orgasm. It wasn't until a year ago when I began having orgasms on a regular basis during sex.
I believe the reason I became orgasmic (lol) is because I really liked the person I was having sex with, I was very comfortable with him, and I did not think about anything outside of what was going on. I would just let go and not think about anything but the pleasure, my mind would be blank. As soon as my mind went blank, I would start to orgasm.
Also, make sure you are fully aroused. When my boyfriend is rushing and not getting me fully aroused, I can't orgasm! It just makes me want to say, "Are you done yet?"
If you really feel that by watching your mother and her boyfriend in a sexual act traumatized you, I would recommend that you get some counseling. It could be subconsciously affecting you.
try going to a "toy" store for adults and getting a bullet. It is a bullet shaped, very small vibrator. If you hold that on your clit during sex I guarantee that you will get off and maybe even a few times. I have to have stimulation on my clit to get off regardless of who I am with and if my mind is clear. That is the only way I can achieve that "release" but it is amazing.
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