Oh No!Not again!What have I done?
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Why wont he go?Is he desparate?
I DONT KNOW WHAT ON EARTH IS GOING ON!!HELP ME! ADVICE PLEASE!My intuition is telling me to stay away from him
I met a man online in June.He and I started dating on June 20th. We have been seeing each other almost everyday/weekend since.The relationship started to become very uncomfortable.He would make rude comments about me,my home,my up bringing.I told him that I didnt want to be in a relationship anymore.He said"Why,I like you.We can work this out.Lets talk about this.I want you to be my girlfriend." I felt bad for hurting his feelings so we stayed together.I went through a divorce from an abusive man last year and I told this guy about it. When we went skydiving two weeks ago he made fun of the abuse!! He said"All Brian had to do was slap you around to get you to marry him." When we got back home I told him to never call me again.No Emails.Nothing. He called and Emailed and said "Oh,I'm sorry.I only want you to be my girlfriend.I'm so alone!Why wont you be with me?No one wants to be with me!" We got back together.How do I make him go away?Should I just ignore him from now on.I dont know?
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He also keeps insisting that I move to the city that he lives in.I keep asking myself why is he so pesistant about it. I told him that I dont like him anymore.What is wrong with him?
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You do not need this in your life. You need to just quietly tell him (in a public place) that it is over. You need to tell him you are sorry, but it is too soon for a relationship or you are moving to montana or some outrageous story. Tell him you are going to become a nun. Whatever you tell him, don't back down. Don't change your mind. Don't let him back into your house. If you have caller ID, don't answer his calls. Use call block and block his calls. Change your emal address or block his emails. You can do that too. Cut off all communication with him. Restraining order may be necessary also, don't hesitate to do it. He is too much like your former abusive relationship and this is only a month into this relationship. You need to learn to be alone without anyone in your life and be happy with yourself before you let a man into your life. Take an assertivness training class. Take a Human Potential class at the local college. Take some woman's courses to make you strong and powerfull. You need to be strong and believe in yourself and realize that you are better than this and no one, man or woman, has the right to tell you what to do. You need to take control of your life and not ever ever give it up again to anyone for any reason. You do not need to answer his questions. Stop this before it goes on another day.
dont be so nice..tell him to get a life
I am sooooooo serious when I see get away from him and call your mom and tell her everything(I know your an adult and its your mom but she will know exactly what you should do)
It sounds to me as if hes is emotionally unstable and possibley an emotional abuser.. He may think he can push you around because your ex did Id walk away and completely ignore him before he goes to far and hurts you.
Um stop letting him back into your life. You seem desperate. You need to start dating other men again. Leave this loser alone! If you keep letting him in like this, the next time you leave him he will know you aren't strong enough to keep him away. You need to learn to be very picky about the men you let into your life. You dont want this man to end up hurting you physically which will happen if you let this continue. The dude's crazy.
Hi,
Apply for a restraining order against him.
If he emails, phones or approaches you they will lock him away.
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listen to you intuition...it's there for a reason..seeing that you have been in an abusive relationship...you are seeing the same signs that this new man has...it to is abusive.Hon...you deserve alot better than a man who puts you down or touches you in any other way than loving touches..
any man who makes fun of the abuse that a woman recieves from a man who loves her ...isn't a man.
The question is "what's wrong with YOU!" This man sounds crazy... make a clean break and tell him you are not ready for anything serious. Just friends... be gentle because he could be a stalker and crazy as hell. Then slowly ease out of communications... when he calls tell him you're busy, then tell him you can't afford internet anymore, so that's why you haven't gotten his emails. Eventually he will stop calling everyday, when that happens change your number... or MOVE!
Next time don't get so close to someone you don't know... let months pass before they know where you stay!
Listen to your intuition. The man you describe is an abuser. Cut loose; do not speak to him again. Don't answer his calls, delete his e-mails. Block his e-mail address.
Also, find yourself a counselor to help you with your self-destructive dating patterns. No one deserves to be abused.
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