Women with experience in anal sex only...?
Question:
is it better than vaginal?
Answers:
It is not better than vaginal. Even then it can try in the blue moon night.
i think you should do it... i wish my girlfriend did... but she don't like pain, so i'm screwed
I HONESTLY DON'T THINK SO MAMA... BUT REMEMBER WE'RE TWO DIFF PPL. MAYBE I LIKE GIVING HEAD AND YOU DON'T. YOU FEEL ME? BUT, WHATEVER GETS YOU OFF. GO GET IT GIRL!! =0)
It truly is. It feels better for the guy and if the penis is really lubricated it feels great. I like vaginal sex better, but anal sex is fun. Just relax. It hurt my first time, but once I relaxed and his penis was lubricated it felt great!
Anal sex doesn't do anything for me but my boyfriend really enjoys it. To begin with make sure that you have plenty of lube. Also, make sure that you take your time. Have your boyfriend explore your anal area with his fingers. This will help you relax as well as help stretch the area. He needs to take his time when going for the deed. But, keep in mind that if it hurts to bad, then don't do it. It is your body and you and your boyfriend should respect it.
NO it is NOT better than vaginal.and it SMELLS!! Everytime your boyfriend thrusts in and out, the odor just fills the air.YUCK. This is the hole where your feces comes out,.what do you think is the positive from having anal sex?? You could also rip tissue in your rectal canal.painful!
Just stick with vaginal..much safer that way.
I personally enjoy anal sex, particularly just anal stimulation such as rimming, touching, and light fingering. It feels good to me, but some women either don't get pleasurable sensations from it or it just feels too "weird" for them to enjoy.
I wonder if your trials with your boyfriend were going about anal sex the right way . . . there are two methods, you see: the first is the "I'm just gonna try and stick it in.", which usually results in a lot of pain and discomfort, regardless of how slow he tries to go, how much a trooper you are, and how much lube you put on. The second method is the slow seduction into anal pleasure- wherein you start with nothing more than a finger or something even thinner, and there's lots of rubbing and touching and kissing and licking to get you turned on, and you spend months slowly getting yourself accustomed to taking slightly larger and slightly larger items, until you can take him easily and it doesn't hurt in the slightest. You play with lots of toys, you get yourself ready with vibrating butt-plugs, he gives you several orgasms so you're completely relaxed, you experiment with positions that can indirectly stimulate your G-spot, and so on and so on. If you go that route, you might find that anal isn't painful, and can be quite pleasurable for you as well as him.
Is it better than vaginal? That's like trying to compare apples and oranges- they're different things, each good in their own way, and everyone has different tastes and may prefer one over the other or not like one at all.
Hope that helps!
I know that you said women only, but unfortunately, most of these women in here are pretty ignorant and I'm sorry to say it. If they don't like it’s because they didn't know what they were doing when they tried it. So read this if you want.
I've met some women, a hand full, not a lot, that do enjoy anal sex more than vaginal sex. Other women like it but as an occasional practice instead of the norm.
The anus is rich with thousands of nerves. I read in a book written by proctologist that said that about half the nerves in the pelvic region end at the anal area. If these nerves are stimulated properly, they can produce "extreme pleasure." On the other hand, if stimulated wrong, they can cause extreme pain. Generally the pain is caused by anal tension during sex.
I think that the women who enjoy it are women that knew themselves what they were doing or tried it the first few times with someone that knew what he was doing. Anal sex is NOT something that you can just jump into, like they make it appear in porn movies. At least not at the beginning. I've tried it with most of my ex girlfriends and all have liked it a lot. But again, it takes patience and know how at the beginning. Once she get used to it, this start happening much faster. And it’s not because she’s getting loose back there, like some ignorant people think.
What really happens is that the anal sphincter muscles (the muscle at the opening of the anus) are part voluntary and part involuntary muscles. Which means that we have some control over them, but not complete control. In fact, we have very little control over them.
The sphincter muscles are control but the ANS (autonomic nervous system). The same part of the nervous system that controls breathing and other auto functions of the body. If you tried to go too fast and these muscles have not relaxed enough on their own, you will experience pain. The more the guy forces himself into you, the more pain you will experience. Which only compounds the problem. When you experience pain, it’s only natural that these muscles are going to tense up instead or relaxing causing more pain. That’s why women who have had failed anal sex attempts have to be even more patient at learning to relax.
Done right, the anal sphincter “learns” to relax making anal sex pleasurable for both involved. Whether is a man/woman or man/man combination. Once those muscles have learned that anal sex is pleasurable, they start to relax very fast. With a bit of experience, you’ll have the guy inside you in very little time. I’ve been with some girls that can insert a penis in themselves in as little as one a minute or less (I’m estimating here based on experience). And these are girls that are not loose from back there. Girls that unlike the myth says, they don’t poop in their pants even when they had an upset stomach and diarrhea.
Anal sex can be very pleasurable for the receiver physically. It‘s a fact that there are women who can experience an orgasm during anal sex and they claim to feel different than vaginal orgasms and some even claim that they like it more. But there are some psychological factors to consider as well. Some people find it exciting because they are doing something dirty and taboo. Some women have told me that they also get pleasure from knowing that they are pleasing their partner.
Men enjoy anal sex because the anus is tighter than the vagina. In addition, some men enjoy being penetrated themselves by their partner, and I'm not talking about gay men, I'm talking about straight men. The men's g-spot (the prostate) is located within a few inches from the anal opening. When the prostate is massaged right (by the use of fingers, a penis, dildo, vibrator, etc.), it can feel very good and even induce orgasms. This is why men find having their anus stimulated so pleasurable as well.
Many men report that prostrate stimulation during a oral sex can give them the most intense orgasms. Sometimes leading to further anal experimentation. In many cases, this experimentation will culminate with full-on penetration by their female partner!
I read the results of a survey that was done about 7 years ago by Good Vibes of their customers, which showed that about 46% to 52% of strap-ons are purchased be heterosexual couples to be used by the female on their male partners. Since then, I’ve read another two more recent surveys by other researchers that show similar findings. For what I understand, that type of practice is on the rise. At least that's what some "experts" are saying. I think that it's a combination of factors, more couples are experimenting with that type of activity, but I think that more couples are being open about it as well. Like a female friend of mine told me many years ago “if it feel good for us (women), why wouldn’t it feel f\good for guys? Back there we are pretty much the same.”
The key to anal please is education and an open mind. If you don’t have an open mind, it’s not going to happen to you. If you into it doing it for someone else rather than for yourself, you are not going to enjoy it. You need to see anal sex and anal play with a very open mind and have the desire to explore with it. Forget about anal sex to start with, just explore with anal play. Using lubed fingers and other smaller objects to explore yourself. Good lubrication is critical, none of the K-Y junk. Buy some latex gloves, some good lub, and experiment with your finger(s). Doing it while masturbating may and generally does increase sexual excitement. The key word here is exploration; don’t try anal sex with a partner off the bat. Chances are that you’ll fail.
One more thing, do educate yourself. Don’t listen to most people here who are very ignorant. That way you’ll be able to make an educated decision. For example, some people here have said (in other similar questions) that anal sex is dirty and that there are feces in the rectum and so on. The truth is that feces are not stored in the rectum; they are stored in the sigmoid colon. Once you feel the urge to go to the bathroom, the feces pass from the sigmoid colon, through the rectum, and out the anal opening. If you experience any feces in the rectum during anal play, it may mean that your diet is not high enough in fiber and you have soft stool. It can also mean that you developed bad bowel movement habits. Like straining too much while at the toilet. Good luck!
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