Are parents of kids with diseases: heroes or survivors?

Question:

I don't have any problems with my family members health.
My girlfriend thinks I am an *** because I was watching a show with parents of a boy with cerebal palsy, and said they were not heros, they were unlucky.

I view a hero as someone who saves someone else.

Answers:
The kids with diseases, like cancer and such, are the heroes. Kids show so much courage when theyre dying that it can be an inspiration to the parents. The parents are the survivors.

They are neither heros or survivors. They are simply doing what needs to be done for both their child and themselves. Some do it better than others, I'll agree to that, but for most, it is a balancing act of trying to help the kid thrive and have some kind of decent life and maintaining their own sanity.

Understand that there is always guilt on the parents part if the disease is a birth defect. That triggers a need for attonement. Now I'm not saying that I believe a parent is guilty of inflicting the birth defect ont the child (I infact believe thatit was an accident, a misprogramming of the dna in many cases, though heredity plays a role in some others) my point is that parent's mindset leads her/him to take responsibnility for the innocent child's misfortune. These "acts of heroism" are also and more specifically acts of atonement. In fact, heroism is in many cases simply someone taking on a great responsibility with no regard for the self.

So hero or survivor? If the parent is to do a great job, it had better be both.

People just like to call everybody a hero. I think it's someone that goes the extra mile. Many people call firefighters heroes because they put out fires and save lives. Yet, that is their jobs, they volunteered to do that kind of thing for a living. If the guy that's the door greeter at Wal-Mart is driving to work and sees a house of fire and goes in and pulls people out, then he's a hero. But not a parent taking care of their child, that's their job, that's what parents do, whether the children have health or mental problems or if the child is normal. I'm not a hero because I take care of my son when he nearly cut his finger off in an accident.

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