g/f-- major surgery-- need advice?

Question:

My girlfriend has problems with her hips and knees, and for the past 8 years she has been in alot of pain, on and off crutches, an din physical therayp which has done nothing. She has been refusing surgery because her father died in the OR during the same surgery. She has come to her breaking point and is going to have the surgery in 2 weeks. I have been trying to reassure her and make her she knows that the chances of the same thing happening to her that happened to her father arn't really that big, but she is still terrifyed of what could happen, I don't know what to say to her anymore, how can I comfort her before the surgery, and how can I make this any easier for her? Also How can I comfort her after? Please give me some adivce
-J

Answers:
This is difficult to answer as one wouldn`t want to offend in any way however, as you have posed the question I will attempt to answer to the best of my ability.
Recently I have come through an op for my hip not replacement.I was reassured by the anesthetist that all would be well & like your girlfriend I was extremely nervous they have ways of controlling your girlfriends nerves, although it doesn`t matter what one say`s until she comes out of the recovery theatre you cannot say anything no one could to me. Reassurance the surgeon will explain all before she is taken down that is common practice I wish I could tell her in person but I am across the pond
There are many organizations who have people placed in hospitals for exactly that reason,what happened to her Father is most unlikely to happen to her,the times & conditions have changed the advancement in surgical procedures is phenominal
When(positive) she comes out of the op don`t tell her "told you so" bite the bullet & let God have a hand in what has to be done.& yes lots of love & attension.Flowers,Chocs,Fruit,...

Shes been g/f for 8 YEARS??? wow. well anyway, you just need to be there for her. Show your support for her. Just keep saying postive things to her. Keep telling her how you know shes going to come out of the surgery feeling like a new person. Tell her you know this surgery is going to be the end to her pain. Lots of kisses....lots of hugs would be great too!!!!

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