I'm really sensitive, how do I overcome this?

Question:

I cry really easily, always have done. I just can't seem to help it. If I make a mistake in a driving lesson, I start to cry. If someone gets angry with me, I start to feel upset. If I don't understand something and have a test on it the next day or somethn like that I cry. It's really embarrassing! I just can't seem to control it. I was bullied mercilessly as a child- do you think this has something to do with it?

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I used to be the same way. People who cry a lot just have easier access to their emotions, really. They know what they feel the instant they feel it. There are people out there who never acknowledge feelings, never cry, and their behavior is stony and unpersonable.

But I can still imagine that you'd like to avoid crying in public, because it is a little embarrassing. I can't give you any tips on how to do this, it's going to take some practice and knowledge of yourself. Whenever I feel myself wanting to cry in front of people, I shove it down. I think of anything else to avoid thinking of what's making me sad. I wait until I can get in the car by myself or in the bathroom, and then I let loose. A few minutes of crying and I'm good.

Good luck. Don't beat yourself up because you're sensitive. You just feel, you feel a lot, and you wear your heart on your sleeve. This is not a bad thing. :)

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do me a favor and read "the Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz. It's great and it helped me out a lot. But you have to open your mind to it. The first part is a little nonsense and confusing but the rest was worth my while.

see a doctor aww thats just how u are girl. It could have something to do with ur childhood. If ppl make fun of u the fuk them!! they have weaknesses to :)

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Being sensitive is nothing to be ashamed of, but it sounds like it is getting in the way of your living your life. I would speak with a professional therapist. It very well could be a result of your childhood experiences. Just tell yourself that your no.1 and self esteem will take over

Yeah, I bet the bullying has a lot to do with it. I was bullied throughout middle school and I'm just the opposite- I can't cry even when I should. I would try therapy, I bet it could help a lot.

well, at least youre not like me, i dont cry often, just stuff all my emotions till i explode. but i think you can overcome it by prayer to God- Jesus, ya know, the one who died on a cross for you. I ask Jesus for help and now I dont bottle my emotions as much

i was bullied as a child to im extremely sensitive you always have to remember the people who pick on people are the ones who are really the hurt and afraid ones cause they dont have the common sense to live like a normal person if your a girl being sensitive is part of your life its how you are it's nothing to be ashamed of or maybe your just depressed and you dont know how to deal with the situations dont worry you'll be alright

It sounds to me like you are a sensitive person who respects others and gives credance to their opinions. Because of your previous history you have wanted to please and be accepted. You try very hard and when that doesn't work out you interpret it as rejection and failure. This is true of most people to certain degrees and especially the bully himself and his victims. More people should be like you. You are never going to be perfect so be kind to yourself and as forgiving of you as you are of others. Practice a little more self esteem and surround yourself with people who will show you approval. It is a learned behavior and you can do it. Good luck!

Being bullied definitely has something to do with it. It takes away your self-esteem, strips you of who you are. Although you did nothing to deserve, in a strange way you feel like you did. Its a very hard thing to overcome. In my opinion I would seek the help of a professional. I went through an abusive marriage and in the same sense I was bullied, and stripped of my self-worth. I went into a deep depression and without seeking help I don't know where I would be today. Sometimes talking to friends and family just isn't enough.

I think that would be best for you. Sometimes you just can't do it alone even though you know what the problem is. An objective outsider sometimes is the best solution.

I do hope all turns out well for you.

i understand,i use to be the same way and my daughter is now the same way.you have to get to a point where you are tired of feeling so hurt all the time because one day your going to REALLY have a reason to be hurt and your not going to know how to handle yourself because everything else makes you so upset.you have to learn how to let things go,you have to toughen up,no matter how much you get upset or want to cry you have to control your emotions ESPECIALLY in public.even in adult life their are bullies and you cant let them see you break,especially being a women.theres nothing wrong with being sensitive and having a good heart so dont feel wrong or bad or try to beat yourself up,just learn to control your emotions.it'll take some time,but trust me,it'll will be worth it.good luck

hi,i am sensitive too,

think just ur nature,sometimes ppl learn to harden up.its not that easy.u r who u r.

i gave up my driving lessons bcos im over sensitive wiv the instructor.i take stuff too much too heart,when i shud shrug it off.

maby a confidence thing also.but not sure,tc Be stronger.Spend some time for yourself.Seems you like Himalayas, so go for few week's vacation and be yourself !! Goodluck.

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