am i a normal man or just a cold person?

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im 17. both my grand grandmas have died. one when i was 15 the other 16 when i went to their furenals i didn't feel that sad. i felt weird like shouldn't i have some kind of feelings? and we got along so well. when i was 16 my friend that i have know since i we were in 1st grade died in a hit and run. we were such good friends. his casket was left open and you could tell were on his head and neck were messed up. i had some cats die some dogs die. but it always seems like i should be sad maybe even crying. but it never appears to me why is this?

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i know im the same way

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You're going to laugh when you read this, but you could be a psychopath. Seriously.

normal, I wasnt sad when my grandpa died. Maybe you just don't express your emotions that way. And that's cool. Maybe it will change and maybe it won't. But I think it's better to be honest about not feeling much of anything than to fake an emotion that simply isn't there.

how many seas must a man cross, before they call him a man.
you ice cold killa dog.
aint no use crying.
coz grandmas and friend aint the important people in life.

It makes you sad deep down but have no way to show it or don't care much for what you love and miss. I've done that a few times. I feel sad, but don't do anything. You might be cold or you might just be detached as a way to handle it.

Do you ever get sad later? or sentimental thinking about them? Do you miss them?

Everyone deals with grief differently..and it also has a lot to do with the way you were raised to deal with it & what your beliefs are. Were you taught or allowed to cry.or did your mother & father also hide their grief?

If you know that your grandmother's are in a better place, then no, I don't think you are cold for not getting overly emotional about their deaths.

I had a grandmother who died on Mother's Day at age 94. She was ready to go, she had lived a long productive life & I honestly thought it was God's mother's day gift to her to take her home to heaven (My belief!) I chose to look at it from a happy, optimistic view. But I was definitely saddened by her death, it was just natural because I knew she'd never be here on earth with us again. :-) But I did not cry, even though, there were people wailing around me.

You might want to talk to a minister, or a professional grief counselor, because if you are questioning why you don't seem to have any emotional feelings about their deaths, then that might just be a signal letting you know there is something wrong.

There again, different people react & deal with things very differently.

Best Wishes!

I am now 21. My situation has been similar. All of my grandparents have died in my lifetime, as well as many older family friends. I have had an acquaintance of my age die as well. I was shocked when I expressed little visible grief at their passing. As I have aged and thought more about what it must be like to have children, my feelings have changed somewhat. I wish I could explain that statement in a clearer manner, but I am afraid it is something you will have to wait to experience. What I can tell you is that grief is generally a somewhat selfish feeling. We feel grief proportionally to the amount to which we depended upon the deceased for comfort and happiness. Despite the fact that you may have cared for these people that have passed away, unless they were very involved with providing you with happiness on a daily basis, I would not expect you to feel a great deal of grief. Your title to your question may also be on target. Men in our society are taught not to express their emotions, and in my experience, that involves some sort of lack of recognition in the individual that those emotions are even present. Good luck to you! I don't know enough about you to say that you are cold.but the fact that you are questioning your lack of feelings when it comes to people dying tells me that you aren't totally "cold". Sadly man in our society are taught NOT to show sadness.."Don't cry like a girl" and other such comments.

Have you tried journaling? Sit in your room with a notebook and write.write about your Grandmas..what you miss about them, write about your best friend and how pissed off you are that he is gone.

You do need to get it out..do not let it fester and follow you through out your life. 1st...If you feel cold...Put a jacket on.

2nd..After being traumatized with so much death at an early age, you tend to separate all emotion from the moment. Be careful though..You will eventually have to face those suppressed feelings at one time or another(when you least expect them to emerge).

However..Jeffrey Daumer never mourned ever !

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