What would you do if?
Question:
I know it sounds weird, but I'm a recovering self-harmer and I have extensive scars on my legs and stomach which won't fade for at least a few years, and will probably never completely disappear. And it's made me really paranoid, especially if I'm with a guy because I'm scared how he might react.
Answers:
I understand that a lot of times, internal pain gets so severe that you just don't know what to do with yourself.i understand feeling so overwhelmed with pain you feel like hurting yourself on the outside would ease the pain, and i'm glad you're recovering from that. but, you have a Father in heaven who loves you far far beyond what words can say or you can understand, and He created a man for you that will fit with you absolutely more perfectly than you've ever dreamed, and if you wait for him, he will love and adore everything about you, and you won't have to feel self conscious or worried about what he'll think of you, because he'll only think the best of you. you may think that the whole God thing/the whole -God loves you -thing is a bunch of bull crap, but the only reason i came out of my depression was because i trusted God when He told me He loved me, and i didn't allow myself to believe the lies of the enemy saying I was worthless/i deserved to be in pain. God showed me that there always will be someone (especially the devil) who wants nothing less than to see me fall on my but from failure, but that He wants nothing more than to see me succeed. it's been a long, HARD road, and i would NOT have made it if I didn't trust God to get me through it. My point: look to God for your validation, and He'll NEVER let you down. HE's promised you that. Don't ever comromise. Treasure your purity, God will bless you ABUNDANTLY if you do. Don't worry about anything except for putting all your trust in God. When you do that, He's promised He'll take care of you in evry way imaginable.
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Other Answers:
If the guy really loves you, he wouldn't care.
I recommend you should see a doctor to get rid of scars.
I've also had scars on my legs and the doctor gave me stuff to put on and it went away in about 6 months.
Sorry to hear that you suffered through that, I hope you are doing better now, I think as a guy I would defintely be caught off guard by it and ask questions tell him the truth about them. he,l respect you more for being open with him
if he has any feelings for you it wouldn't matter about the scars or how you got them
if i was a guy (BIG IF) id be concerned, might ask a few questions, but id totally understand, and id want to be totally assured that all that stopped, noone likes a loved one to be hurt, even if its self-harm
Good answer from 'buddy' about the stuff from the doctor but it might be a good idea to tell your prospective partner you self harmed so at least she's aware of it. It would be a complete shock if she didn't know. Hopefully if you were getting to this point with a guy, he would know you fairly well and should know about these things that you have done in your life.
USUALLY 1 NIGHTERS DONT GIVE A SHI**** ITS ALL ABOUT INTERCOURSE N DO IT WITH THE LIGHTS OFF
Badger, if this person can accept the scars then fine, if he makes an issue then is he right for you? Try putting some honey, yes honey on the scars as that does work to soften them.
As to what I would do, I would carry on as it's the person you love not their appearance. Dudette,
Kudos to you for being "a recovering self-harmer." It shows what a strong person you are.
If a guy reacts to your scars in a negative way, it's on him. He's the one losing out on getting to know such a special person.
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