Is it good to be a virgin till marriage?

Question:

Iam 18yrs and iam still a virgin.I find it difficult to have sex because i feel its painfull

Answers:
it really depends on how each person thinks of it.some may say for you to have/get experience (responsibly) so you know what makes you feel good and what doesn't etc.and some may say for you to keep it until you find that certain someone.but all and all, it comes down to you, if you say it's painful then wait until you feel it's natural, (meaning if you're with someone and all you're thinking about is how good you feel with this person.then whatever happens happens).age really has nothing to do with it.my best-friend was like one of the most popular and beautiful girls in her school (everyone loves her) and she didn't lose her virginity until she was 23.she said she was proud of it, it was her choice, and she's happy with the person she lost it with (although they're not together now) but she's still happy with her choices.but anyhow, it's all up to you, when you want it, how you want it, with whom etc.let nature lead you :) but don't forget about safety.the truth of it is STDs still roam around, worse yet HIV/AIDS.and lastly pregnancy (unless you want a child) is under your responsibilities.so just enjoy life, be a responsible citizen, stand for what you believe in and BE HAPPY!

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Yes, it's good to stay a virgin until marriage. You will be with the one you love and it will be special, you won't have regrets, and you won't have to worry about pregnancy/std's.

no u r giving punishment to u r boyfriend I think no. You have to try it before buy it same with sex how can you marrie a man with out knowing his sexual capabilities.

No Fun But Good

I'm 18 and a virgin too. There's no shame in it. you just need to wait till you feel ready for it. If that's not till marriage, ok. If it's sooner than that, that's ok too. Don't let anyone pressure you into making that decision. It's for you to decide. Let it be special and just the way you want it. You only lose it once.

I think it's best if you let whatever happen happen. If staying virgin until marriage has something to do with your morals, you should stand behind it 100%. But if not, you should just go with the flow. When the time comes when you find that right person and you feel comfortable with losing it. then let it happen. if ur religious, then stay virgin till marriage.
if not. ask urself wut u want. u want to be taken advantage of for ur 1st or do u wanna enjoy every minute of it with ur significant other. Love is in the air its summertime BABY (or spring in the southern hemisphere)

I am not sure how you "feel its painful" unless you tried it! Maybe you tried to have intercourse and made him stop because it was painful? In that case, I would say that you aren't still a virgin. The pain was your hymen getting stretched or rupturing. If you want a quick and simple fix for that, an OBGYN can apply a local anesthetic and dilate it for you. Then sex with a gentle and patient partner would not be painful. Of course, you might be in love with a clueless fellow who's idea of foreplay is to take off his boots! If that is the case, then you both have some learning to do. Find out how your body works by yourself, and then you can teach him. If it doesn't feel terrific, then you're not doing it right!

If it is just the whole idea of sex that is painful, then maybe you need to talk this out with a therapist.

Either way, do you really want to just postpone this to your wedding night? If you have a problem (other than just mild fear), better to get it fixed now. You shouldn't have it ruin your first time with your husband. The issue is very subjective and personal. I was never raised being told that I should wait for marriage, but definitely for love. Even if you don't marry the first person you fall in love with, once you reach a point of trust and really feel love for one another (not just lust) then I think it is okay to have sex if you are ready, even if you are not ready for marriage. I think it beats getting married early just to have sex, because you may be ready to have sex before you are ready to enter into the serious commitment of marriage.

I'd definitely wait a good 3 months, at least, of knowing your partner and his/her background and family, before having sex. Also, ALWAYS use a condom, even if you trust the person you are with, even they might not know that they are carrying something that can be harmful to you. When you are married and ready to have children (and you have both had your health tested) you can take the condom off.

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