Would you think badly of someone who self harmed?
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As a self-harmer myself, not to mention someone who spent a lot of time counselling college students who self-harmed and running a self-harm community online – one of the first of it's kind, one that took a healthy attitude towards self-harm (rather than encouraging people to quit or glorifying self-harm) – no, I would not think badly of someone who self-harms.
Self-harm is too misunderstood still; it's the result of someone who for some reason lacked in social upbringing in the formative years and so lacks 'normal' coping methods. All is fine for most up until those teens' years where everything becomes so important and for some it is too much, things like break-ups and fights with parents can trigger off self-harm. It still saddens me that so many people try to stop, or are forced to stop through guilt through their loved ones, self-harm does not stop, you cannot reverse what made you who you are…you can only find out why you are who you are, discover your triggers, avoid those triggers and try to learn new coping methods.
Stopping self-harm itself is very harmful, it makes me sick that people are so closed minded to exactly what this problem is, it is not just attention seeking it is something that effects a person their whole life and not something they can safely just stop cold-turkey.
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No I wouldn't think badly of them at all. It's an illness just like any other. I really hope your ok!
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personally.. i wouldnt think badly of you, but you do need to seek help to break this cycle. It CAN be done, even if it seems impossible a task to reveal it to so many. Seek psychological counciling soon. I would not think badly of you. I would b emore concerned. YOu must fight the temptations. take it from me I use to hate my self and life
No, but they would need help to over come their problem. I've been in this position where I was harming myself and I really needed help. If you don't fix the problem, it will get much worse. Trust me.
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no,the pain from self harming stops you from feeling the pain in your life, (what ever that may be) so its important to try to find other ways to take your frustration and pain out with out hurting yourself more. :) Why would you want to think badly about someone who harms themselves? They are asking for help when they confide in someone. They need help, not pity or hatred. Try suggesting counseling to them, in a non-judgmental way. Be their friend and offer to help them, not shun them.
not a quesiton of thinking badly of them, but is there not somewhere you can go to, to get some help.
you don't seem to be alone in your plight on here either, seems like it is nearly popular.
I can't get to grips with what makes a person do that.
hell no,who the hell am i to judge!i wud want to help sum1 struggling,u ok? Do you mean like they are a bad person no , i would tell them to get some help like rehab . but do it discreetly
They need help, and I suggest this happens sooner rather than later. Self harming is idiotic, but I realise there are probably pyschological reasons for it.
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No but I would try and get them to seek help. Um. We all self-harm in some way, whether it be cutting, illegal drug use, smoking, drinking, gambling, over eating, emotional self pity, etc. I'm assuming you're talking about cutting or a simular behavior? It's gotten a lot of attention lately. I can't say I think it's that new, because I know as a kid in the 70s, I rubbed the back of my hand with an eraser until it bled. You should probably seek out someone to confide in though. A school counselor, pastor, psychologist.whoever you're comfortable with. It will get better!
I wouldn't think badly of someone who self harms. Some do it because they don't have any other coping skills to deal with what is going on in their lives. I think that they would need to try any learn more effective coping strategies that would put them less at risk of accidental suicide from accidentally going to far with self harming.
Definitely confiding in someone you trust can help you get the help you need, or at least someone to talk to.
No I would wonder why you are hurting yourself. Sometimes people use this to deal with their stresses in life but you may want to try the rubber band trick instead of cutting, which I am assuming you are doing. Just put a rubber band on your wrist and instead of cutting you could snap the rubber band. Also you should go to your community mental health and try counseling, they can help you figure out why you do this and help reach alternative methods. Good Luck and you are a great person who deserves a chance. e-mail me at gardendrholdings@yahoo.ca for help with that problem.
It is a illness just like depression or alcholism but I think I could help, I wish you the very best
Importantof all not to belittle yourself if you have this illness their is a cure for this illness.
No I would not think badly of them - sometimes that it how people deal with repressed feelings as only the pain makes things bearable. They do however need to improve their self esteem and learn other coping mechanisms for emotional conflict if they are to learn how to cope without self-harming and for that they need professional help. Support them, don't judge, tell them how great they are and ask if you can help them maybe by accompanying them to counselling or looking at websites together that deal with this subject. i would not feel bad towards them, infact i would want them to open up to me and get it off their chest.
I lived with a girl who used to cut her self - and starting drinking very heavely - and even though I lived with her I didn't notice for months until it was summer and I saw the cuts.
Deep down it was a cry for help. I thought someone has attacked her - but after a very long time I found out she was doing it to herself.
she simply hated her self and hated her life.
luckly we did sort it out with some professional help and a lot of support from friends and family
she is now happy in a relationship and looks fab..
some time it's because you are looking for something and you don't know what it is.
No i wouldnt . its not easy to ask for help, see you doctor they can give you advice or put you in touch with other people that can help you , maybe its something thats happed to you thats caused you to self harm you may need to face your demons before you can move on with your life.
Good luck The main reason any body self harms is for some form of attention but more commonly, some form of love. You confide in someone you feel you can trust. It's a very controlling thing to do. But it's just a way to reduce your feelings of insecurity.
I wouldn't think badly of them but I also wouldn't trust them or seek to get too close to them. I certainly wouldn't be drawn in to repeatedly persuading them why they shouldn't do it. Some use this method as a way of getting somebody else to show that they care.
I'd say stop doing it, start valuing yourself.
It's up to you but if you don't care about yourself why should I?
If somebody cares about you and you are harming yourself, you are both their friend and their enemy. It would be you harming the person they care about.
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