How do I deal with my Girlfriends Marijuana Use?
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I'm also worried that her use has seriously messed up her ability to deal with people. At times she gets unrealisticaly selfish and hard-headed (this is when she isnt high) and we've lost 2 roomates because of it in the last year.
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WTF BUDDY YOUR A ******* RETARD...WHAT IS WRONG WITH WEED...i wish i had a girlfriend that smoked weed, plus you always have weed if she smokes weed, you got it pritty sweet dude
Get a more responsible girlfriend obvisously she is only concerned with her own wants at the moment not her future or yours for that matter
You should try to get her into drug rehab,instead of dumping her like that last clown said u should do.She needs ur help.She just doesn't want to admit she needs help.Good luck to u.
turn her in and go find someone else.
i'm sorry to hear that. there's honestly not a lot you CAN do, except show her that you won't accept her constant drug use anymore. i grew up in a house of addicts, and that showed me that unless she WANTS help, she'll never seek it. show her you love her, but make sure she knows that you won't be sticking around if this continues. it affects you just as much as her, and it's your responsibility to take care of yourself first.
it might take something drastic like losing her medical liscence to make her realize that she's in trouble. that's what happened to my mom's girlfriend... she lost her nursing liscence due to drug use.
a lot of people don't always realize the damage that pot can do, but if you use it like that it really can change who you are and what you do. there's a great possibility that it's damaged her brain, and possibly even her body. she might have an inability to process stressful or undesirable situations, and that might lead to more drug use. also, it probably stunted the growth of her body, which would explain the sporadic and painful periods. if she lays off the pot, even for just a little while, her body will have time to catch up and she might even out a little bit.
the way my mom puts it is that when you're on drugs all the time, it keeps your development trapped at the stage you were when you started. she needs to get off of the pot to grow up and start being a more functional person. if you can help her see that, that makes you a great person, but it's not something that you can do without her being willing. try to show her how she changes, and keep reminding her that you don't like it. it might make an impact one day, but it could be a long time.
good luck. i hope you guys can get past this... it sounds like you really love her.
Unless you are completely in love with her you need to rething YOUR situation. I married a guy that smoked pot every day and I thought he had it under control within a year he was using other drugs and his addiction was so bad. I spent a few years trying to help him and supporting him while in and out of detox, but he started stealing from me and I had to leave him. Whatever you decide -- Good Luck, and be careful. If you do decide to stay with her there are also support groups for loved ones -- alanon.
If my friend was using Marijuana, I'd have to tell her goodbye and move on. Let her know if and when she stops [really stops] then I'd welcome her friendship back into my life. But, I just can't jeopardize my own lifestyle and put myself at risk, b/c of a friend's wrong choices and lifestyle. Friends influence friends behavior... I also feel that my reputation might be at stake. Maybe you think I'm being too drastic, but I don't take chances and gamble with whats right and wrong. I have never been arrested and have no bad habits, etc. I don't even drink socially...do use wine and certain liquors in my cooking. I am a chef, tho.
btw, there is new evidence released this week about new-found evidence on the harmful effects of this drug.
try applying for the show intervention on A & E channel (link in my sources). it's a really good show and i think your story is good enough to get you a spot on there.
even if you don't get on the show, try having an intervention of your own. get family and friends together and sit down with her and let her know how bad she's really hurting you. get those two roommates in there to let her know why exactly they moved out and what she couldn've done to prevent them from moving out. try getting one of her professors in there to really explain how much she's putting such a promising career at risk.
than there's always the ultimatum. the problem with that is if she chooses against you than you have no choice but to move on. that could be one of the last things you choose to do. but if she loves u like you think she does than the ultimatum might work. i just gave my girl one. i'm 25, she's 18 and wants to become a dancer. i look at this girl as my future wife, not just something to hold me over for the time being. she just graduated high school and is having trouble finding a job. we want to get a place together and can't until she finds one. she's been looking for about 2 months so far with only one interview to date. so she wants, well lets not say wants cuz she really doesn't want to, but she feels that's her only option at this point. i told her if she does that she can forget about moving in with me and forget about any future we could've had together. after that she said it wouldn't be worth losing me she opted not to do it. so ultimatums can work in your favor, but be prepared to move on if it doesn't. good luck to ya, i know how it feels to let a good one go, it ain't easy, but everything happens for a reason remember that. keep ur head up dude!
also, i put a link below to an article that suggets that smoking weed might increase the risk of psychosis. i've smoked weed for almost 10 years and haven't noticed anything, nor has my family. i recently quit though, can you guess why? that's right, my girlfriend wanted me to.
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