wat do u do to get ur best frin to get help with her emotional pain?
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I am a recovering cutter myself so I can tell you that you cant do anything to make her stop. You can, however, help her by letting her know that you truly care and want to understand. Make sure she knows that whenever she needs to talk you are always ALWAYS available to listen to her. You might try asking her to call you whenever she fights with her mom or whenever her mom hurts her instead of cutting herself.
People who cut themselves do sometimes have suicidal thoughts, but the act of cutting is not a suicide attempt in itself. Self-mutilation is a coping mechanism that people use to try to comfort themselves because "normal" coping mechanisms like running, writing, "take a deep breath", etc doesnt work for them. Because of this make sure you never refer to her cutting as wrong or bad or abnormal because its her last resort to deal with her pain.
As far as telling someone, I would advise you dont tell anyone just yet. Before you tell someone you need to talk to her about it and suggest that you can be with her when she tells someone. If she refuses to tell someone no matter how hard you try you need to tell her that if she doesnt tell someone then you will. Like someone else said, cutting is often a sign of some sort of mental health disorder and can be treated with medication and/or therapy.
Good luck and if you have any more questions or your friend needs someone to talk to who's been through all this PLEASE dont hesitate to IM me on AIM at HeresToGoodnight. Or you can email me at my yahoo email adress and I will be more than happy to help you guys out. Good luck!
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Honestly, this is a very dangerous situation, you have to tell someone. She may be angry with you at first, but in the end she will be grateful that you cared enough to make sure she got the help she needed. I understand you don't want to be a "narc" or anything and I understand that you don't want to betray her confidence but if you don't do something this could progress into something worse and you may lose her completely. HELP HER!
Self-Mutalation is often a sign of persaonlity disorder: boarderline personality disorder if not, It is a maladaptive coping mechanism, She does it in response to anxiety. She may need problem-solving conseling.
She needs to go to therapy, in therapy the goal will be to develope a more effective stragey for avoiding and coping with interpersonal stress, loniliness, and anxiety. If her mom is causing this maybe family counseling is better.
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