What is the easiest way to stop hating certain things?
Question:
Secondly, I hate President Bush, his administration, the Democrats who are not forcing impeachment proceedings and his supporters for being blind.
How can I stop hating? I hate the fact that I hate so many people.
Answers:
This is tough. I would imagine your feelings stem from a frustrating helplessness regarding the people you mentioned. Frustrating because you feel there is nothing you, as an individual, can do to, for instance, impeach the President. You feel you have to depend on persons you elected, who are not looking out for you, only for themselves. You see the corruption of modern society, how the poor are getting poorer and the rich caring less and less about those less fortunate than theselves. In the face of such overwhelming helplessness, it's easy to hate.
(At the risk of sounding like Yoda) Hate comes from fear. It's normal (if not particularly healthy) to fear what we don't understand. Sometimes, understanding comes from studying and embracing what you hate, in order to not hate it anymore.
Using George W, Bush as an example (as you did), as much as I dislike the man, and his policies, and his choices in foreign relations, ad infinitum, ad nauseum, I don't hate him, I don't hate him, because I know in my heart, there are few truly evil people in the world. Bush doesn't wake up in the morning, get up and start pondering how best to do some truly evil act. The worst thing that can be said about Mr. Bush is, he is a truly lazy man. While I can dislike and have no respect for a coke-snortin' man who bankrupted any company he ever owned, who is in the hip pocket of the Middle East and Big Oil, who is practically RELATED to Osama Bin Laden (as an aside, enough time has passed for the US MIlitary to have searched every cave 3 times over in Afghanistan, if Bush had sincerely wanted Osama, Mr. Bin Laden would be in custody right now. Obviously members of Bin Laden's family [Who Bush Sr. works for] have asked our elected President to leave Osama Bin Laden alone). But still, even with all this and a lot more, I don't hate the man personally.
On the other hand, there are some in Bush's administration, especially Dick Cheney, whom I do believe are monstrous in their actions. The US government has devolved to where the oersons in top positions no longer have to worry about being held accountable for their actions and policies. The first step toward resolving your hate is to understand where the target of your hate is coming from, intellectually, emotionally and politically (I didn't say 'spiritually' for a reason: I'm not sure some who hold high office actually have spirit)
There will be no easy way to truly defeat your hatred. If you feel helpless, start drives or petitions to get persons elected who you DO feel would represent you adequately. Or, channel your passion into your own political career. Now is a good time for change: At no time I can remember has there ever been such a "Throw the bums out" mentality in this country. With upcoming elections in November, it's not possible to run this term, but you could do a lot of fundraising in two years. People are begging for ethical government, but to get elected, you have to have SOME big corporation in your pocket, otherwise you'll be outspent and unelected every time.
This hate is not good for you personally, health-wise either. Hatred causes stress, which can result in ulcers, insomnia, and in some extreme cases, dementia. Let go of this hate, at least by realizing hate solves no problems, it only creates more. Try to see the other person's side of things and don't believe EVERYTHING you see or read.
Look, you'll either take this advice or you wont. There is no easy way to truly stop hating, except by examining what you hate about this person and to examine yourself as to why that particular behavior or trait causes such hatred in you. Somtimes, we see the same qualities in other which we ourselves exhibit, and this causes us shame, which promotes hatred of that quality in others. Jungian theory posits that anything we hate in others is actually something hateful we recognize in ourselves.
Spiritually, hatred is a judgment of another person, As you get older, you'll realize judgements based on scanty evidence is irresponsible behavior. Judge not lest ya be judged is sound advice, no matter where it came from.
I wish you success. Hatred is wasted passion.
Other Answers:
Don't stop hating.
If love makes the world go around, there is room for hate to balance it out.
Hi,,, why dont you try a little Prozac,, it will help you ...
good luck
The easiest way is to change your attitude. Hating is a waste of time.
Realize that you cant change people or often change things. Learn that you just have to live with it and let that be your attitude.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
fill yourself with love for life and love in general. Make yourself incapable of hate. Think from the heart.
Open your mind to understanding, and it will be more dificult to hate.
Work at persuading your friends to open their eyes, try to put all that energy you are wasting in hate, to work for good. Or, you could move to Canada, which is not a perfect society either, but far less frustrating
dont think about it
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