Im 25 years old i have 2 kids 4&6 I've lost 4 family members in 1year im very unstable how can i cope with ths


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I don't wanna beleave that i have mental issues but everyday that gose by i see a change in the way i treat my kids ect. i lost my Grandama then 2 months later i lost my stepdad then 4 months my nina mary then 1 month later my aunt to cancer And I'm so empty inside do you think it's normal what Im going threw or do i need mental HELP and how do i go about seeing someone {Thanks Alot Sarah}

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I don't think you need to go to the doctor, you need to make strong your self……..it's all natural, we all have to die one day……even me and even you…there is no doubt………yes, it's painful when some goes earlier…………….but just think about your kids……….you have there responsibility………..and if you are shocked, what about them and what they will do? Just think for your own kids? Be brave and spend your life in the real world.
and yes, i advice you,try to make your self, Busy..too much busy.so u will not have time to think all this

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try your church- talk to a minister. or go to your doctor and see if they can reccomend someone. Hon, you're really stressed, and that's normal.
Dealing with losing 1 family member is hard, I couldn't imagine having to deal with losing 4 family members in a short period of time. Maybe you should speak to your family physician about counseling services. Do you have parents you can talk to? Friends? Your children's father(s)? If you are treating your kids badly or neglecting them due to your possible instability, you need to get help ASAP. Talking to someone in the family and maybe having them take the kids for a few days to give you a rest is probably a good idea.
What you're going through is normal. It's called "situational" depression, because of the situation you're in having lost people you care about. You're overwhelmed with the loss and grief and need more time to cope with it.

That doesn't mean you should ignore getting help. Counseling for grief is a very good idea. This is especially true because you have young children and you need you to be there for them. You can't be there for them until you take care of yourself.

Find someone to talk to. If you have a church, start with the minister. I'm betting someone from one of the funeral homes knows of good grief counselors in your area. You're not ready to go to a mental health clinic at this time. If you're not feeling better in a few months- then the depression is becoming chronic and that's when you go the mental health.

Check NMHA.org. They deal with all aspects of mental health- including situational depression and grief- (in most parts of the country- as opposed to NAMI.org that only deal with "brain disease"). Your local NMHA (Mental Health Association) chapter will know the resources in your area.
To loose your family like that is going to happen no matter how long it is.But here is the cool part you still have your kids.
Yes I think you might want to look into help. But remember your kids will love you now,and don't understand why their mommy is sad.
You have to be careful because if you treat your kids wrong then you might hurt them,and lose them to the state. So go get help before it gets bad . GOOD LUCK TO YOU! Oh and I'm sorry for all your lost. God said never be sad for the desist smile remember the good times you had with them.
I to have had a rough couple of years. I am 27, raising a 6 year old all by myself. I have lost a few people, and have constant sources of stress. What has helped me out is having someone to talk to and to vent to. I started boxing, and displays all my anger into my training. I fought my first amiture fight a few weeks ago, and thanks to my angry training method, won by knockout in 19 seconds. Having people to talk to and finding health ways to vent frustration has helped me tramendously in dealing with my son. Counsiling should help, but having a friend that has been there works a little better. If you need someone to talk to, e-mail me. I'll let you vent. In the mean time, find a hobbie that alows you to focus and find your center. Things have a way of getting better over time. good luck
Lexapro works wonders!! This antidepressant is awsome it keeps me haphaphappy!! What you are going through is normal. Get an antidepresant to take the edge off. And get back to having fun with the kids it's summer!
I don't know if you're a person that prays, but maybe you should try it. As far as what I believe: I know that I will see my loved ones that have went before me, so you will see all of them again. Hang in there


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