am i wrong for feeling this way?

Question:

ok one of my best friends has schizophrenia... i wont go to deep into details for her sake but as a kid she had a bad child hood and as she got older things never got better... last year alone she got put outta the her house 3 times. emotionally she's really needy shes never single because she need someone to need/love her. i cant even count how many times she's OD'd on my hands....sometimes it annoys me when she comes to me for advice because by the end of the conversation she blames me for taking the other person's side and then feels i dont love her or w/e. sometimes i jus want to step away and say " you're a big girl... u cant keep using your past as a crutch" but then i'm afraid if i say that she'll try to off her self again cuz i was being to harsh

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I don't blame you for feeling frustrated and I totally know where you are coming from. I'm still friends with my ex boyfriend for just the same reasons - he's not schizophrenic, but he is very depressed and I know I'm one of the only people he can talk to and considers a friend. Luckily, for me, I'm not so worried that I can tell him to stop feeling sorry for himself and start being positive. You; however, do not have that luxury because her illness is more extreme and I honestly do not have any good advice for you.

If you're really worried about her you should try to convince her to check herself into a hospital that can help her. Is she on any meds? She should be. Schizophrenia, to my knowledge, can be controlled by RX drugs and as far as I know there is really no better way to treat it since it is an extreme chemical imbalance in the brain. It's not like my friend's depression that often times seems to be caused by his negative attitude towards life.

You're not wrong for feeling that way, though. Trust me. You're not her parent or guardian and you should not feel responsible for her. I totally understand if you do, though, as I would feel responsible for her too if she were my friend. Some people, though, even people without mental illnesses, will never see when they are at fault - they don't want to see it and they won't accept it. That's just the way it is. All you can do is be a good friend and next time she asks for your advice and you know you're gonna say something she doesn't want to hear - try finding a more constructive way to help her that won't cause her to react so extremely. Try to always keep your advice positive and hopeful while keeping in mind her delicate mental state.

I always tell my friend, when he's droning on about his past and blah blah blah that everything happens for a reason and sometimes bad things happen to us so that we may overcome them and be stronger more productive people because of them. Granted, this never helps, but maybe someday it will stick and he will finally let it all go and start living in the now and looking forward to his future.

Good luck.

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You're not wrong. It's noble to want to help someone, but if it affects you adversely, you can cut her loose with no guilt. She needs professional help, and you are not a professional.

Love, Jack

Your right she is a big girl. Yes she hard a rough past but you need to let her know in a nice but firm way that you too have problems you need to deal with and you don't mind giving her an opinion but let her know that she sometimes takes it a little to far. Good luck..

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