what psychological effects would my 3 year old have due to the absence of both his parents for two years?
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with all due respect; i don't know your situation and i will not judge you, but.if you're looking for an "it's ok" type of answer i can't give it.
your son is in the formative years of his life, he will be somewhat affected by this when he's fifty. a change has already occurred and there's nothing to do but deal with it. love is a great healer.
what psychological effects? i would say anxiety, feelings of abandonment, primarily. then of course that is compounded when he becomes separated from his grandmother, whom he now probably identifies as the primary care-giver. it might be a good idea to work with a counselor as soon as possible on your return. there are some good pediatric counselors who may help a lot. i wish you good luck with this.
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Why don't you just go back and take care of your kid? The sooner the better. He may never be able to trust his environment and feel secure (and this is what make you sane these days), hope the Grandma is doing a great job. After you go back try to keep living him for 2-3 for some time, so he can learn that you'll always come back and come back sooner than in the past. Good luck.
Oh,baby girl, this is gonna be hard for everybody involved. What it is going to amount to is that when you go back chances are he will be a perfectly well adjusted little boy who sees his grandmother as his mother. I will assume,unlike others, that you may not have much choice in being away from your child. The military is famous for breaking up families that way. You'll just have to give it time when you get back. Everyone will be fine in the long run. Good luck to you and blessed be. Firstly, you should research developmental psychology to get a thorough understanding of the deveopmental stages he will be going through. I would expect from a general understanding that because he will be meeting most of his needs through the assistance of your mother, that when you return he will be much closer to her as opposed to you. When he needs something-he won't go to you first. He might not even trust you if you provide him with his needs primarily, i.e. He is hungry and you give him food but he doesn't take it b/c he prefers his food to come from his primary care provider.
Be persistant and most of all loving-with patience and time you will be able to teach him that he can depend on you as well as his grandmother! It is certainly not to late for the two of you to be close and have a normal functional relationship.
i think that it is a good thing that you have keep phone contact with him.and if you are planning on takeing your son home with you i really think that you should work gradually by gaining his trust and getting to know you as a person to cause less stress and well also from preventing scareing the **** out of him.im sure that he will rember you it just might take him some time and try not to get hurt if he dont warm up to you right away children tend to be closest to the ones that take care of them so he has a very strong bond with your mother but with tiime he will warm up to you and knnow and accept you as his mother but always keep yoour mother in his life and sooner you do this is the better because he is still young.i know this because this is comming from experience and i wish you the very best of luck! So long as your child has a loving and caring environment there will not necessarily be any long term psychological effects.
The boy is a serial killer in the making.
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